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Private Investigator

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Cheatingturd · 09/04/2019 21:38

Hi, gearing up for divorce after living with 15 years of a lying husband. Can anyone recommend a good private investigator in the Thames Valley area? Any tips generally on using a PI? Thanks

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JustmeandtheKIDS2 · 09/04/2019 22:01

What are you actually using a Private detective to find out?

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Cheatingturd · 09/04/2019 22:41

Know he spent night at a hotel recently. Would like to confirm and find out who with.

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Lozzerbmc · 09/04/2019 22:57

Cant you just call the hotel and get a copy of the bill - might give you some clues

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Cheatingturd · 09/04/2019 23:32

Presumably bill would only confirm booking in his name. Know that already from credit card statement. Wondering whether PI can access more info, e.g. cctv

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LemonTT · 09/04/2019 23:34

You are just wasting money. You don’t need proof to divorce him. Just tell him it is over and file for divorce.

TheCraicDealer · 09/04/2019 23:41

A PI isn't going to get you any more information on the hotel meeting unless they're pretty unscrupulous. They won't get legitimate access to CCTV, they're not the police and have no right to view it. The only thing you could realistically do is get them to go down the tracker/surveillance route. I have had cause to instruct them in a professional capacity and you're talking the guts of 1k a day, and that's not London/SE pricing. What's the point really? You know he's cheating and you want to end the marriage. That money would be better saved for creating a new life apart from him.

QueenBeex · 09/04/2019 23:46

Would like to confirm and find out who with.

Okay so you want to hire a private investigator to find out who he stayed in a hotel with previously by looking at cctv?
I agree you're wasting your money. You don't need to know this information. You know he's stayed in a hotel, you know you want a divorce. You know hes cheated on you. You know he lies.

If you really want to hire one then do some research on Google, that'll tell you local ones with reviews etc.

BitOfFun · 09/04/2019 23:55

Private Investigators cannot circumvent Data Protection laws any more than you. You can divorce on the basis of unreasonable behaviour (lying to you etc) just as easily as adultery.

LemonTT · 10/04/2019 00:03

Ending the marriage will soon root out the OP and people aren’t daft they will know it was an affair. Ending the marriage is the way to go. Looking for more evidence is just avoidance.

LaughingCow99 · 10/04/2019 00:09

I think the PI can find out if he is having an affair by trailing him. He doesn't have to ring the hotel to find out.

WearsABlackAndLongCoatWrong · 10/04/2019 00:10

I know someone who paid a PI. Cost quite a lot of money (about 400 quid) and didn't give the information the person was hoping for.

Agree with PPs (p.s. This isn't anything to do with a partner moving to Dubai, is it?)

Plipplopbop · 10/04/2019 08:45

Oh wearsblack, I wondered too.

But yes PI no good after the event, waste of money

notapizzaeater · 10/04/2019 08:46

You obv don't trust him so just divorce him.

VirtuallyConfused · 10/04/2019 09:00

The hotel wouldn't know. If he has a hidden credit card he'll pay with that and only his details taken.
They may take turns, but even then you never need to give both people's details.

hellsbellsmelons · 10/04/2019 09:28

A PI can't get you that information.
He could do some digging and follow him etc... now to get proof of ongoing affair.
But honestly, it's been 15 years and you know only too well what he is like.
Just file for divorce and take it from there.
PI's can be very expensive.

TheStuffedPenguin · 10/04/2019 10:15

If you are divorcing him then don't bother . You are not going to get any better deal in your settlement because of it .

TheStuffedPenguin · 10/04/2019 10:16

A PI could do surveillance but it could cost you about 500 pounds for one event .

Jackshouse · 10/04/2019 10:17

Why do you want to know that information? If it’s over for you it’s over. It won’t make any difference to the divorce or how much money you get. You will just be using up your time and energy.

Bluntness100 · 10/04/2019 10:20

A pi won't be able to get this info. They can do surveillance going forward but not find out what happened in a hotel room historically.

If you want a divorce just tell him and go ahead and stop messing.

Putthatlampshadeonyourhead · 10/04/2019 10:34

A PI cant do this for you.

Sallycinammonbangsthedruminthe · 10/04/2019 19:00

Don't waste your cash..just move on.If its done its done doesn't matter about why or where fores...Go be happy!

Romax · 10/04/2019 19:06

You will be doing this to satisfy your own curiosity

It will have absolutely ZERO impact on any divorce settlement

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Cheatingturd · 10/04/2019 21:04

Thanks for replies. Won’t waste my money then Smile Yep, mostly just feel a need to satisfy curiousity about who the OW is. Thanks all.

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