My husband and I have been together for 20 years, we have two beautiful, occasionally wild children, a lovely home, good jobs and I really have no right no complain. He's a good father... and here comes the but... I'm just exhausted of feeling like I'm left to run the house whilst holding down a full time/full on career and keep kids happy going to all their various clubs. I'm starting to really resent the way he wants a medal for doing some washing and if I suggest he takes the kids to one of their clubs for a change so I get a break he casually suggests they miss a week. I'm very lucky I do have some very good girlfriends and I've talked with them often about how I've been feeling but truth is I'm frightened to talk to my husband about it for fear we've already past the point of no return. He got a voucher for his birthday last June for a lovely local pub and we still haven't been... which tells me we haven't been on a date just the two of us for nearly a year. At best we'd only get date nights twice a year since the kids (eldest now 10) on birthdays. Even worse I'm pretty sure I could count on one hand the number of times we've had sex in a year. I just don't feel like he tries for me... If I organised it, he would attend but aside from the kids not sure what we'd even have to talk about. I organise all the childcare, every holiday, all the school admin, all the home admin. He does tell me that he appropriates that I do more than him but am I so wrong to expect him to do more for us. I do love him and in so many ways we are still perfect for each other. I recently had a weekend away with the just me and the kids and I'm finding I enjoy my time with our children just as much without him. Feeling very confused and not at all brave about facing this. I know we can't carry on like this.