Regular here name changed on the back of a thread earlier re narcissists
What exactly is coercive rape? Reason I ask is my ex was an incredibly narcisstic and abusive person. Every trick in the book, ended up in Court etc etc
I am long moved on from him but one thing that I do think about from time to time is the amount of times sex did not feel right. I mean the times where he put alot of pressure on until I just done it, or he would be all wound up and nasty shouting etc and that was the only way to stop it.
Once time he llocked me in the house, threw things, pinned me down, screamed etc etc - all manner of awful things. Anyway in the end I slept with him. It was literally the only way to calm him down and get him on an even keel enough that the next day he would let me leave to go to work (whereby I phoned the police and thus began the process of leaving...)
When I htink back it just felt so wrong. I felt incredibly sick during and after and he used that against me afterwards "you reported me to the police but if I was that bad why did you sleep with me that day. You led me on." etc etc
Is this what is classed as coercive rape or is this something completely different? Has anyone been in a similar situation?