How to tell if he is into me ?

[Stuckinmymind]

Will try not to blab on but another dating post to add 😌 so been OLD a few months now , been on numerous dates but never felt the spark until I got chatting to what seemed to be like a genuine guy , we chatted on the phone a few times . Then stupidly I got a bit tipsy after some horrible news and he called me and said he was happy to keep me company 😵woops and yes it did happen , the funny thing was I said to him the next morning "hmm spose I won't hear from you again now" in a jokey way which he was surprised about . Any way he did keep in regular contact but I continued to date others , until one day he said he really wanted to see me so I spent the night there . Since then we have spent the last two.weekends together , he has met a couple of my mates and told them he really likes me and I'm a lovely person. He even told me also.
When he got home last night he txt to say thank.you for the lovely weekend he loves spending time with me. I'm not sure if it's just on his part or if he really does like me , any input would be greatly received 😌

Hmm Does he have social media pages? I’d have a bit of a secret snoop

I once dated a guy who seemed amazing, made loads of effort, introduced me to his friends, even told me he loved me (I didn’t say it back as I always felt something was “shifty”) anyway I was right, he had a girlfriend! His mates were all scumbags too, knowing he cheats on his girlfriend yet making me feel like number 1 when I saw them.

Looking back I can see he just used me, he just knew all the right things to say. I learnt my lesson anyway!!

You say he text saying he wanted to see you so you spent the night there....did he take you out? Or you just went round for sex? Not judging by the way, just wondering if he could think it’s just a physical thing. He obviously likes you as a person but that doesn’t mean he’ll want a full blown relationship. Just make sure you look after yourself so you’re not hurt if that’s the case.

In the mean time, relax & enjoy it for what it is x

Oh I just read the post about not really going out.....that’s a bit of a red flag to me. For the price of a takeaway you could both go for a couple of drinks or a meal somewhere not expensive! Why not suggest it, I’d even suggest to pay-to gauge his reaction.

Without sounding harsh, if he’s getting sex without having to put any effort in, there’s not much motivation for him to. Do you get me?

Can I just ask you something?

How much had you talked on the phone before he came round? Not texts, but proper conversations?

And how long was it from the moment he came into your house to when you had sex?

Ok so we had probably spoken on the phone I'd say about a month to b honest I thought it less then that but looked back on our texts and it was proper full blown conversations like for over an hour. I really don't think he has a girlfriend ? I mean I could be totally wrong but I've been to his and absolutley no trace at all, and he is hardly ever on his phone even when I'm there with him , he even left his phone behind in my mates car when she dropped us off and was not concerned about it at all.
We can go out I suppose it's just we both don't really feel that bothered about it ,

Ok well just trust your instincts then. If you feel he’s being honest & it’s all good then don’t worry!

Well I think he is , but I suppose only time will tell now ...

1/ have sex whenever you feel.like it, with the right person it will have 0% baring on anything.
2/ he sounds like he cares about you, there is nothing negative to be taken from this (only in MN world)

No one is suggesting that having sex early in a relationship, or indeed casual sex is in any way less than ideal personally, I favour having sex fairly early on to see if people are compatible but the OP has said

I've been on quite a few dates and all seemed to be after one thing , which I refused to give so they fizzled out

which suggests she is not in general comfortable with having sex with someone very early on.