At what point did you become an official couple?

[MaiaRindell]

I started seeing someone new about six weeks ago. I've known him for several years. His coffee invitation came out of the blue. had never considered him in a romantic way but and I have always got on very well so I gave it a chance. He is lovely and we are having a really nice time together. He admitted last night he has liked me for years. But I'm not sure if we are a proper 'thing' yet. At what point did you know or have a chat about being exclusive etc?

I think the conversation comes up organically most of the time. For DP and I it came up because we were talking about our use of additional protection for sex, then we both said we weren’t seeing other people and didn’t want to see other people and had been tested etc. This was about 2 months in I think. I think if you’re already thinking about it then it can’t hurt to bring it up. If he has liked you for some time, he will probably be happy to be exclusive!

He asked me out and to make it official about 4 or 5 weeks from our first date. That's nice though to be secretly admired for years 😁

I have been with someone a bit longer than you and I feel a bit unsure and scared. I don't know what to think of "us" or how others view "us". I would be interested to read others opinions too.

When my boyfriend asked me if he could change his Facebook status to "in a relationship."

We had the 'exclusive' chat around the 6 week mark.
Neither of us were seeing anyone else but I guess that's where it began to feel like we were an official couple

As PP said, the additional contraception chat is a good opportunity to find out what's what

Immediately really. It was a very intense first 12 hours.

I am absolutely certain he isn't seeing anyone else. He says he sees a future for us so I assume he sees us as being exclusive at some point. But it feels too soon to be 'out' as a couple.

And, yes, it's lovely to have been admired for years. He has come as a complete surprise to me.

I moved in to a rented house with my now DH after 5 weeks and 6 days - so hard to tell really! I think it was within a week or so for us as we just clicked immediately.
We were 35 and 40 though so not kids. I don't think there is any right or wrong though.

We got engaged after 4 months, married a year later and 6 years on are having baby.

On the second date and we said we loved each other. We have been together 2.5 years, living together after 2 months and engaged after 5 months. We absolutely adore each other and can't wait to be married.

@StillMe1 That is how I feel. We work together so know a lot of people in common. I don't want the pressure of everyone knowing but would like to know where I am.

Exclusive after a month and became girlfriend/boyfriend a few weeks later. We moved in together after 3 months and have now been married for almost two years. We were both mid thirties though, no kids and wanted to get on with things

@MaiaRindell thanks, you understand!
I hope all goes well with you and your loved one.
We are complicated by each having DCs, one side friendly and the other not.
Best wishes

“It’s lovely to have been admired” and “he came as a complete surprise”. Tell him these things, say that you feel very happy and fortunate, and take it from there. Maybe say that you can’t imagine yourself with someone else now, in the hope he replies, “I feel the same”

Spent 8 hours together on our first date although the first 5 hours were with friends of his too. Then had a night off and spent the next 3 evenings together and the next 2 days together after that. Officially BF/GF after that. Still together nearly 8 months later.