Angry partner

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My partner has anger issues, the slightest thing he can flare up and cause an argument.
There was an issue with a family member over the weekend and it got very heated and nasty then he took it out on me, swearing and throwing things. He hit me with the remote control and a glass got smashed. Threatening behaviour towards me and a very ugly scene, I was really fearful. Next day he pretends it didn't happen....like a split personality. He had had a lot to drink prior to the issue with the family member and the whole scenario was horrible.
I'm quite shaken up with it all. He can fly off the handle at nothing and blame me, I feel like I'm walking on egg shells.

Walk away

This is abuse.
Please find a way to leave.
This is not get better - EVER!!!!
Do you have DC together?
What is the living situation? Renting or mortgage - in who's name?

No DC together.
Renting
Next day he can't remember what he has done...he is like Jekyll and Hyde, a split personality

Run for the fucking hills, just get away from this violent thug.

He can remember it. He just doesn't want to take responsibility for it.

Leave him. He's not going to change and the longer you put up with it the more downtrodden you will become. Don't wait until you have children. Get rid of him now. You're worth so much more.

It's happened before, he has anger issues small things can cause him to flare up and blame me....I'm walking on egg shells.
He drank almost a litre of spirits when all this happened and it's a bad combination the alcohol and his anger.
He thinks oh it's all okay the next day, just forget it...I'm feeling downtrodden and worn down...

Op please walk away, it’s only going to get worse

Wow - no real ties.
OP this is a complete no-brainer.
You deserve better.
And you know it.
Google - the cycle of abuse.
It's the 'nice / nasty' cycle.
i.e. Jekyll and Hyde. It's all well documented.
You do NOT have to live like this.
Please choose an abuse free life away from this person.
He will never make you happy.
Life is way too short to put up with this shite!!

Why are you with him?

Get out. What's stopping you? No dc, and you're renting anyway. If he wants to keep a roof over his head, he'll have to pay the rent on his own. Off you go. NOW! Before he does you some serious damage.

Now imagine a baby and toddler in this situation. Just go, it's his problem to deal with. Violent twat.

It's taken a lot for me to post as I feel pretty word down, I guess I've got used to this as if it is the norm...and it's not. Plus I've been feeling quite low and down so it's a difficult to get the strength to do anything. We've been together a long time, and I'd seen glimpses of this before. It's like when he's nice he's very very nice but when he's bad he's horrid...I've lost my confidence...he speaks badly to me calls me nasty names then next day has no recollection and says he didn't mean it...

He means it alright.

He knows exactly what he's doing, get out because it's only going to get worse.

He's not a child with a curl in the middle of his forehead - he's an abusive violent man who is gaslighting you. Get away - stay away

What is stopping you from packing your bags when he is out and getting the hell out of there?

Don’t walk away from this relationship. Run. Run like fuck. And don’t look back.

Don’t walk away from this relationship. Run. Run like fuck. And don’t look back.

This ^^

Doesn't remember what he said / did, my arse!

He remembers fine. He likes seeing you get twisted up when he says he doesn’t.

Get out before something “hits you by accident”. Which he will “forget” unless it leaves a mark.

The end of Jekyll and Hyde was that Hyde took over and no good existed. Whenever you hear a man described as such, it means he’s a 100 per cent bastard.

I see that he already hit you by “accident”. Get out now before he decides that excuses aren’t amusing him as much. Violence is a very intoxicating feeling to this kind of man.

Get the hell out of there.

A LITRE of spirits ? That is not normal .

Actually, you are in danger and need to react as if you are in an emergency situation. Do you have any family that can help you? He won't get any better.

I’m so sorry you are going through this op. You have been given some really good advice here and I would agree you need to get out. You can phone the domestic abuse line or women’s aid if you want someone to discuss the situation and make a plan.
Not trying to scare you but the figures are well known for how this can end for these poor women who can’t find it in themselves to leave. Please don’t become another statistic.
My intention is not to scare you or over dramatise but the figures never lie. Let us know how you are.
I would also urge you to look at the article in the bbc today about ‘silent calls’ for police emergency services.

Of course he remembers but it's easier for him to swallow any feelings of shame or guilt if he fakes it.
Who cleans up his broken glasses etc you?
Time to stop and ask yourself why is it ok for him to get away with this abusive behaviour
It's still abuse even if he denys doing it
You can walk out and leave those eggshells behind
Being very nice is a mask because truly nice men don't abuse.
If he was genuinely decent he'd seek medical help for his amnesia after his violent event
He'd be giving up alcohol if it affected him so badly he'd be worried for your future safety and of anyone else around him!
But no he's just a violent abuser who denies and gaslights you which is also abuse