Is age really something to think about?

[Thatkindaguy]

Hi all,

I’m a single male who is 36 and over the past few months I’ve been having some thoughts which have caused me to worry.

I’m 36 a recently I’ve put myself back on the dating scene. I’ve never been married, good job, no children, but want them and I have been told I’m handsome/not bad looking.

My question is do you think my age would put someone off wanting to date me? Am I going to find it hard to meet a partner who would want children?

I suppose im having one of those panicked moments in life. You’re thoughts would be appreciate ladies...

I don't know whether this applies to you, but I have friend who struggled to find a suitable partner because he was too damned fussy. He had a list of "must haves", some I thought quite bizarre, and refused to seriously consider anyone that that didn't tick all the boxes.

"a friend"

I'm not Eastern European.

@Boysey45 I would say youre friends where the exception not the majority. Teenage children by 36 would mean they had them very young.

Im 29 and the 1st out my group of friends to have a baby. I am also youngest of the group. I find at baby classes etc im the younger end of parents too.

@RottnestFerry

Im not fussy. I don’t think I have to many requirements. My ex partner was a narcissist. She was ungreatful and a bit of a controlling. Checking my phone, no trust, accusing me all of the time.

I’m just after a “normal” relationship which is full of love and happiness. I know I can’t be 100% of the time but I’m a bit of a romantic.

As for what I look for. Finding someone physically attractive and mentally attractive is a must. Above that everything else is “workable”. The first thing I look at when I meet a woman is their teeth, then their eyes. If that’s quirky or difficult then tell me...I hope not.

My lovely husband was 41 when we met and he hadn’t really been in any serious relationships before. Dated obviously but never even lived with someone etc. It didn’t put me off- I was divorced (young) with two kids and some baggage that might have definitely scared off many men. We met and married within the year and had two more children, and are happily married 14 years down the line.
So no- 36 isn’t any age at all to be a barrier to finding love. Good luck to you.

As for what I look for. Finding someone physically attractive and mentally attractive is a must. Above that everything else is “workable”. The first thing I look at when I meet a woman is their teeth, then their eyes. If that’s quirky or difficult then tell me...I hope not

Well, it's a short list and seems pretty normal to me. My friend's was more extensive and included things like an hourglass figure, liking cats and particularly obscure Japanese cartoon characters. Quite frankly, it was ridiculous.

I might get flamed on here, but I would widen your scope to include mid to late 20s, although give some thought to the future implications of a larger age gap.

I was lucky, I didn't have a list and I wasn't even looking.

You sound like the rare knight in shining armour. It's so rare these days to find someone to date who hasn't been married before or has kids.

There should be a lot of women who will be interested in you.

I think most women often date men older than them as generally we see them as more mature than men our own age. For example I'm 32 and my OH is 40.

The only time I notice the age difference is sometimes talking about some music and films. Other than that there are no issues.

Best of luck on the dating scene.

At 36 you will be attractive to women from mid 20s to mid 40s so don't worry!

@Thatkindaguy

Would you mind me asking what sites you’d recommend?

I haven’t tried internet dating or apps as I thought it was mainly for casual hookups but you mention seeing a lot of people our age looking for something serious and long term. It might be time for me to bite the bullet as all the people I’m meeting in real life are either already in a relationship or too young or too old.

@eleanorOalike
I know you asked the OP but just wanted to say you can literally use any of the main ones for relationships; tinder, match, eharmony etc.
I’ve never had a ‘hook up’ but had a 7 yr relationship from match a 6 month & 2 yr ones from tinder. If you put that’s what your looking for in your bio then you tend to get replies from people looking for similar.

Oh come on. Normal human relationships are full of stress, anxiety, panic, moodiness, as well as happiness and joy. Surely you are aware of this?