Dp asking what you talk about with your friends

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It's not normal is it for your partner to constantly want to know what you talk about with your friends like in detail? And always get paranoid if you talk about them? X

No.

Depends really, if he/she feels the need to then its OK to ask just as you'd expect the same... Unless there is something to hide.

Asking what you talk about is fine, if he's been out I'll often ask DH what he and his friends talked about as I'm interested, asking in detail is rather odd though, getting paranoid if you talk about them is definitely not normal.

No, it's controlling and weird

Like every single detail. Getting arsey about it for no reason asking questions like did you talk about so and so's boyfriend did you talk about lads did you talk about me etc....

No in a general ahh what did you guys talk about way like oh yeah so and so is going to Spain etc

No he doesnt, DP is aware that we will talk about all of our partners and everything else from jobs to makeup to mental health.

He likes to know what we chatted about in a general way because the girls are also his friends but he wouldn't insist on details.

No, it's not normal. DH will ask how everyone is (we often socialise in a group so he knows and gets on with them & their partners) and he might ask how someone's holidays went, or how someone else is getting on in a particular situation, but would never ask what we talked about.

My best friend is dps sister, so he usually makes a 'oh both koaning about me all night eh?' Or 'is she ok, hows things?'

If I started telling him in detail he would be confused and the every bored.

Control freak 🚩

Well lie, "we talked about periods, bestiality and Jilly Cooper's last book". he's hardly going to check with your friends, if he does it's really controlling.

Massive, massive red flag. This is totally NOT normal and very controlling. What you talk about with anyone is none of his fucking business. Get him out of your life immediately.

Nope, never. Sounds controlling

Nope, none of his business really. A general question out of showing interest sure. A grilling inquest and anger, hell no! That is controlling abusive behaviour.

Might share the topics, answer the what’s the gossip question, he already knows I’ll be talking about him - he doesn’t care. Do I provide a stenographer’s court report ? I do not ! that’s not a normal level of interest in my opinion.

DH asked me this once. I think to try to be friendly and interested like a good dh should.

Me: We had a long discussion and I came to a decision.
DH: What's the decision?
Me: I'm changing my washing powder.

He never asked again.

Thanks all xx