I think it's the beginning of the end

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So I just back from holiday. It was so nice to be away from all the stress and anxiety that he causes. Came back and despite him offering to buy dinner it was soon back to 'you're an idiot' 'why are you so stupid?' 'You're fucking useless.'
I told him that I want him to leave. He went to bed, I'm too tired to push him out. How do I make him understand that it's over and I want him to go?

...how long have you been together?

Nearly 15 years. Two children.

If it helps I am in a similar position. Just been away for a last ditch attempt to salvage something. We went out with friends and he ended up rowing with my good friend. He blurted out very publicly that he wanted to separate so he can be happy! ( despite making our life a misery for 3 years). I tried to have a discussion to sort out the practicalities and he said he will speak to me when he is ready ! Not sure who he thinks he is .

@sandgrown sending hugs. Who the fuck do they think they are to dictate the end of a relationship?

Thank you and the same to you . He has had some problems with depression and mood swings so we have been walking on eggshells for ages . I just want him to go now . I hate the way they think they can talk to you like a piece of dirt. To add insult to injury I paid for the holiday ! Keep smiling . It can only get better

I find if I think about him leaving I get so excited and nervous at the same time.

If he won't go, can you not leave and take the dc with you?

It's my house, I'm not leaving!

I feel the same. He went away for a few days and we were so much more relaxed . I keep thinking I can have the house as I want it and go out when I want without long faces and passive aggressive remarks

So when you say it's your house, hasn't your oh got his name on the deeds? If he has, then he probably be thinks, "it's my house. I'm not leaving". If neither of you is willing to go, you're stuck together forever.