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Seeing other people

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Mixxx · 04/04/2019 16:34

Hello! I have a problem... I’ve been seeing 14 yrs older guy that I met on tinder, I’m 23. We’re seeing each other for a month. I just started seeing him for fun, didn’t expect anything. It seemed like he started to fall in love w me, which I didn’t like, cause He’s much older. We text every day, and he seemed really nice, he kinda gave me hints that he minds I’m not that into him as he is into me. All of a sudden, I started to like him much more, and started to mind a lot that he follows other girls on social media, constantly (he’s new in the area and has no friends cause he works too much) and i think he meets them on tinder. Also he can meet me only late evening, after 9pm, cause he works that much, and I don’t like seeing him that late, (in his apartment always cause he says he’s to tired after work.. and yes we had sex). I guess i started liking him a lot all of a sudden, and what do i do about the instagram thing? He’s fallen in my eyes, that seems kinda desperate to have no standards and just follow girls and like their pictures, when he already has me, it’s like he’s looking for replacement, and it doesn’t make sense cause he was showing he likes me a lot...and he’s not a talktive guy, avoids phone calls, and conversations in general, I don’t know mych about him, are all of this red flags???? Help people please :(((( now I’m really tense for the last few days because of this, and i think he feels it, and I’m afraid it’ll scare him off...

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Jessgalinda · 04/04/2019 17:00

He doesnt have you.

You arent in a relationship.

And even if you were you, I would be telling any friend of mine to get rid of someone who is going through their social media and judging on wether they should be following certain people.

You need to establish if this is just fuck buddies or something more. If it's just fuck buddies, I suggest you walk away

Closetbeanmuncher · 04/04/2019 19:53

Your post is shouting at me that hes married/in a relationship....

With respect youre not in a relationship with him youre a fuck buddy, you know that right?

Hes using you for sex and sounds thirsty....only you can answer whether thats acceptable for you or not.

Personally speaking thirsty behaviour is enough to put me off even in a fwb arrangement. I just find it a real turn off.....brings to mind a panting dog with its pinkie out humping a cushion... realistically something that should end with the teenage years 🤢Confused

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