If you ask yourself these questions or are frequently told these things it’s quite likely you are being emotionally abused. Do you have anxiety or other mental health issues - you’re body is trying to tell you something is not right - listen to it!
Read the links that come up below they are very very good.
I was married for 20 years -I did not know my marriage was abusive until I got the phrase “ i’m Not sure I love you anymore”. Suddenly behaviour was unrecognisable - was he stressed through work? Was he depressed? Was it grief due to recent death of DM? No it was affair & OW - concealed and lied to over 6 months - during which time I thought I was going crazy! It was MN that gave me the answers I needed!
This was nothing like the suffering I have been through since filing for divorce and subsequently since divorce finalised two years ago. I knew what my X was capable of - he downplayed the company, he manipulated the sale of the family home, he reported me to police for harassment and used kids contact arrangements to mess with my head and keep me under “control” so I did not have the energy to deal with the financial issues during the divorce! I am still dealing with the fallout now and was financially screwed over by X and by my legal representation!
I suffer with long term depression which I managed during the marriage - since this ended I have been under adult mental health twice, had GP referred counselling twice and currently waiting for another session - more recently as the financial strain is hitting home I have had suicidal thoughts not because I want to die but because sometimes I can’t deal with it all - I have spent too much time in bed!
I have ongoing issues with OW who will not accept Dd wants nothing to do with her and tries to win her favour which just pisses DD off - I have issues with X who will not communicate with me at all even when it is about Ds schooling! X will not pay for textbooks but will quite happily donate £50 to a charity for abused kids - the irony!
X is well respected in his industry - he is very high profile - yet he lied in court under oath - which I believe calls his integrity into account which is fundamental in his role!
If you have any doubts at all no matter how small speak to someone - do not think you are imagining things, do not think people will think you are stupid and if you can speak outside of your family support group. I used to talk to my DF he used to allay my concerns as being “part & parcel of marriage” it is only recently that I have come to understand the dynamic of my parents marriage - which today would be described as emotionally abusive.
My DM kept a lot of stuff hidden from me - I heard the shouting, the arguments over money but she never once said a bad word about my DF. I looked to replicate my parents marriage I thought this was normal.
I send my kids links to articles on narcisstic behaviour - I send my kids links on emotional abuse - it is not enough to expect them “just to realise when they grow up”.
I am intelligent, I am a strong woman yet this blindsided me and knocked me for six - please do not let this happen to you or your children x
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/womens_rights/3550467-A-really-interesting-article-for-anyone-experiencing-narcisstic-behaviour-in-their-lives