I don’t know if this is the right place to put this as it’s mostly teenagers I did read a very old thread regarding this type of situation.
Basically my 22 year old son had to go to his dads as a few years ago his behaviour was such that the police were called he was very angry verbally abusive and smashed the place up . I had to move into a two bed with my daughter as couldn’t afford to support all three of us . He left college didn’t do well at school since he’s been at his dads he’s not worked but signing on it’s been nearly two years now he is calmer a lovely young man ...but only if he’s doing what he wants if confronted or asked about work or help and support his temper flares up again..his dad has just kicked him out as they had a huge row again he was verbally abusive and extremely confrontational . He came to ours to stay for a couple of days then said he had had a row .His dad won’t have him back he can’t stay with us financially and also if asked to do anything with work help support he gets angry it feels like Groundhog Day I go from utter sadness to anger and frustration when we lived together when it was really bad I was scared and anxious all the time .its not as bad but I can feel it bubbling underneath all the time .he won’t get help he won’t engage with anything I’m exhausted and scared and worried . When I try and talk with him about moving forward he tends to railroad me repeating same words and turns into this arrogant mean person 😔😔