How to arrange custody with unreasonable man?

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Can he threaten me with full custody. He owns the house and has the money. I've been stay at home mum for 4 years. I've no money and he has told me to leave. He will not reason with me properly. He just says I can visit the kids? He loses his temper alot and with the kids too. I've got to do something but I don't know what. I mentioned mediation he said no so I said court and he said he will destroy me. I can't win. I've got no place to go either. Who can i turn to for help? Thanks

Tricky one... so you don't have nowhere to go?

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Are you still in the house now?

Try calling women’s aid for advice. They will advise on application for emergency housing or consider refuge if suitable.

What a horrible situation but do not leave the kids with him
He won’t get full custody if you are a SAHM and he works FT.

So sorry you are going through this. He’s a shit.

Do you have no access to money at all?
If you have a joint account can you draw out the maximum and hide it or transfer some to another account in your name or someone you trust if you don’t have an account.

Is there absolutely no one you could take the kids to as an emergency? It’s school holidays so could be any part of the country for a bit whilst you try and apply for emergency housing.

Are you married?

Yes he can apply for full custody - anyone can - but it doesn’t mean they will get it .
The court welfare will investigate and recommend who the kids should live with .
The courts will most likely back this decision.
It’s a long process.

Do not leave the house - I know it’s technically not legal but I would change the locks too and if he kicks off the police will remove him for breach of the peace. Buys you 24 hours breathing space

You can apply online for uc and contact your council tomorrow about emergency housing. Do you have a friend you can drop important paperwork etc off to for safe keeping. Councils are used to this, it's too common

Yes first point is are you married?

Then legal advice

Is there anywhere you can go safely with te children

You need to get advoce from local domestic violence support team. Sounds like you can claim emotional abuse and get legal aid. You would be able to get non molestation order and then occupancy order even if you're not married.

You would HAVE to do mediation first before court anyway, take the advice of the ladies above, try get some emergency accommodation for you and your children. Do not under any circumstances leave the kids with him.

He would NEVER get full custody he's just trying to scare you.

Tell someone in real life, a health visitor, Woman's aid, family, friends, someone will be out there who can help and advise you.

It also sounds as though as well as emotional abuse he's financially abusing you which is illegal. Report him to the police.

I used to be afraid of my ex when he first threatened to have custody, too. He didn't actually want custody. He just wanted to scare me. The father of your children is doing the same. It's nasty, abusive and, while it is frightening, it's also fucking childish.