Not mentally strong enough to end my marriage

[Rockingaway]

My marriage of 3 years hasn't been right for a while now, we have 2 children together and I have 3 children from a previous relationship. I know I need to end it but I'm just so mentally drained from the children and the house and finances that I have nothing left to deal with it all. I know he won't take it easily and I just don't have the energy to fight it. I don't even know what the point of this is just feeling really down today about it all

So sorry to hear this OP. I went though this with two previous marriages. One physically abusive and the other mentally. With marriage one I fought for everything and it wore me out and I had a breakdown, lost 5 stone and looked awful. With the second one I just walked away. No fighting. I looked for a rented property and packed up and left. Never been happier. Tough decision you have to make but for me I looked at the time of already lost. Did i want to wake up in another 8 years time and feel the same after already spending 8 years or so with both.

Thanks for replying. I keep thinking is this what i really want from life is this how I want to live because it's so miserable at the moment, sorry you have been through it aswell

OP. I made it through. You can do it too. However you're felling now ask yourself do you want to wake up in 10 years feeling the same way. How old are you. Do you have a job.

How old are the DC? Being in a bad relationship is draining and can cause physical ill health so it can be a vicious downward cycle.

Do you have family support? What is the housing situation? There will be a solution.
Have you been single for any long period before, it is actually fantastic once you get over the initial shock and grief. Life as a single mum can be easier than negotiating a bad relationship.

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This

You can do it. Be strong OP

Thank you it helps just to get it all out. Children are 2, 4, 7 and 9 (it should of said 2 older children not 3 in the op) I don't have a job currently, have quite a supportive circle of friends and family just feel like they get fed up of me complaining and not actually doing anything altho my mom is a bit old fashioned I her thinking that as we married we should stick it out!
I know it can't go on like this I need to find the courage to just do it, thinking of living this for another 10 years is unbearable and it's not fair on the kids as I'm so unhappy

Our house in private rented in my name as i lived here before him. I was a single mom when my 2nd child was born and it was a thousand times better than this

I’ve maybe not done the maths well- but I’m thinking you had a child together before you married then have had another one. Plus the two you’ve already got- so how long have you actually been together and what made it work/made you decide to get married? You’re obviosuly very busy with kids etc so have you both really even given your marriage a chance? Good relationships shouldn’t be hard work but should be worked hard for in the sense that they take communication, compromise, effort, time etc. And sometimes tenacity. I’m not sure that throwing it all away without at least considering the issues and whether they’re able to be worked on is really fair on you or your husband. The for better or worse part could well be for a time like this. Depending on what is actually wrong.