Red flags/controlling behaviour?

[orangejuiced]

I'm a single parent, been dating a divorced man about six months. Not sure whether he's starting to show some controlling behaviour, or whether I'm overthinking. Examples:

1. He says something to bother me, like 'oh you always lay there while I do all the work' (sex, not true) I reply 'no I dont' he replies 'joking, don't take things so seriously' . Another day he says 'oh you don't work as many hours as me, slacker' I reply indignantly 'yes I do, my hours are flexed', he replies 'oh I'm joking!you need to take a joke'. I find his 'jokes' undermining and quite rude.

2. I ask to watch something on TV, he ignores and puts something else on. Or he flicks to what I want to watch and then says it's no good and changes the channel

I don't feel like these are the signs of a considerate man? Or am I overthinking and should give him more time?

That’s the classic bully’s manoeuvre when they have been called out.....or they turn it on you and bully you again by pretending you don’t have a sense of humour. Also they are disguised as subtle micro aggressions so he can chip away ever so slowly against your boundaries.

Suggest you say “I was only joking - your not in a relationship - get your coat and feck off”

He sounds like an incredibly unkind pain in the arse.

He's texting your boundaries & definitely trying to undermine you & make you feel shit. It's only 6 months. Get out X

He sounds way worse than being single. Ditch him and don't look back.

I'd ditch him, and from a distance if possible. You never know just how much of an arsehole they are til you reject them so I wouldn't want to risk being alone with him when you tell him. He might be your 'harmless' type of arsehole but equally he may not so just make sure you're safe.

Yuck!!

Hes going to get so much worse, seen it all before. Run while your still sane!!

You're describing my ex!

You to him: you're an emotionally unintelligent fuckwit of a man, who happens to be shit in bed.

Him: whaaaat? You can't be serious.

You: oh, I'm only bantering/lighten up/take a joke.

Wonder how the above ^ would play out. The thing about these people, is that they can give it out but never take it.

He is awful. I would definitely do it back to him, then immediately dump him.

Get rid of him. He's a control freak