Just Friends?

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I have a guy friend who I have always got it’s on well with he was friends with my husband originally but whenever we were out in groups he and I would be together constantly. When I left my husband we saw each other at least once a week. Pub quizzes, drinking just do just fun stuff fr. He was a really good friend. Around 6 months afternoon I left my husband I found I actually quite fancied him. All my Friends’s d family thought he had a thing for me but I never knew for sure. At this time i was still going through a tough split and then I found he was on tinder. I took this as a sign he wasn’t but interested and starting dating again myself. I met a guy and ended up in a 16 month relationship that ended aprubtly and badly. The guy friend was there’s for me again. We’ve started to see each other once or more a week, we text all the time, he is a good friend, but I’ve still got that little spark for him. When I was last out with his friends they all asked me when we were going to stop faffing and get together. Problem is I’m so scared of rejection and of ruining what we have I don’t think I’ll ever make a move. I also go over the top messaging but calling him ‘buddy’ and my best friend. If people comment on our relationship in front of him I make a really big deal about there being nothing going on.
I don’t know if he’s interested or not and I do t feel I can ask without ruining our friendship. Help!

Personally, I would steer well clear.

I would question the credentials of someone who was happy to date the ex-wife of a friend.

If you have a sound friendship, then I would sit down and put your cards on the table. At worst he will say he does not want a romantic relationship with you; at best he may jump at the chance. I have never been good at all the flirting, reading signals, or sending them myself, so I am just blunt about it.

Those people I have told that I found them attractive have either been happy to then have a relationship, or felt flattered that I thought they were really likable. There has never been any adverse reaction, or awkwardness.

Just do it.

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This.

I probably would go out and get drunk and be a bit flirty and touchy and see how it went.

Ask him. What’s the worst that can happen?

Y’know... “do you ever wonder if we could have been more than just friends?” Is a reasonable opener. Then you can see where it goes...

Ask him straight.

You might spend the rest of your life thinking if only. If he declined, it would be awkward at first, but it should not ruin the friendship in the longer term.

You already know about him, go for it.

Go out for a few drinks. Steer the conversation to romance. "Why don't you have a girlfriend? What do you look for in a woman?"

If he replies you, don't laugh, pounce.

He's like an animal waiting to pounce on the vulnerable.
Don't go there. Step away.

Honestly, he’s not really like that. Which is why I’m in two minds to say anything. He’s got lots of friends who are girls, we’ve been in plenty of situations where it would be easy for him to ‘take advantage’ as it were. I think he’s just a good friend and maybe I’m thinking more into it because I’m so desperate to feel like someone could be attracted to me. He’s not the type of person to just be able to snap back if I mentioned something and he didn’t feel the same way x

I think it's better to regret what you have done that what you haven't. Don't be in a situation where in 10+ years time you're thinking "if only".

What's the worst that could happen?

I think I'd be rather ticked off if my ex H started seeing one of my friends, especially one he met through me as my friend.

Of all the single men ... do you really have to go for this one.