What the hell is wrong with this guy???

[Itsjustmarley]

Ok so basically I was seeing a guy, known him since October 2017. We were having a fwb situation recently for 4 months, I caught feelings, basically poured my heart out to him, he said he was happy I had feelings for him but didn't feel the same and said I wasn't the one for him. Ok fine.

Now, he kept kinda reeling me back in, we got into a bit of a fight. So I decided I can't have this toxic relationship so I decide to delete and block him from everything just so I can move on from it & so he can't get hold of me. Now he's created another account and now proceeds to just watch me and my stories through it.

Can anyone just shed some light on why someone who knows they're blocked and who doesn't even want you would purposely just watch you?

‘Caught feelings’ isn’t a phrase specific to the op. It makes no sense to me (cos I’m old) but lots of the younger people in my office use it.

He's not interested but his ego has taken a bashing because you blocked him. He's never going to be interested you've just upset him that is it.

Well thanks for your responses guys, even though a couple were kinda harsh. I wasn't expecting a 'oh he's secretly in love with you' response, I was just wondering why one would do this when it's clear they've been blocked and removed, like if it was an ego/control thing. But thanks all the same

Come on now op you've undoubtedly posted this before unless you "catch feelings" for somebody different every few months...

I wasn't meaning to be harsh but simply put this type of toe dipping and past dwelling isn't worth your thought (unless you find that sort of thing entertaining).

I'm certain there would be plenty of guys ready to reciprocate your feelings, so don't concern yourself with what this tit is doing, get out there and be romanced! Once you find someone compatible you won't give this window licker, or his bizzare behaviour a second thought!!

And yes just to add it's undoubtedly an ego control thing!

I'm no psychologist but... I'll have a go at figuring out what's going on anyway.

It seems to me a lot of men are told early in life that they need to be "real men", but are then told no they can't just have their way with any woman they please, they can't go hunting rhinos and most likely they will have very few opportunities to display "traditional" male values (thank god!) and so they think their social status isn't very high.

So I guess some guys want to express those values in other ways, by finding ways of gaining power over the opposite sex, and when they find someone who pushes them away who they can reel back in again, they're happy to have got some of that power back.

A loving committed relationship wouldn't give them the same ego massage.

Don't let that someone be you.

Either his ego or because he is nosy. If he wanted more, then he can clearly contact you to say that so I think you have to accept he was honest when you spoke to him and doesn’t want a relationship.