My dad's partner is very hard work/ rude!

[malificent7]

We used to get on but as she is getting older she is getting more and more difficult.
For example...the constant comments about my weight. She is generally obsessed with weight but can be quite rude. When i said i needed to loose a atone she said 'is that all?!'
Also she takes great relish in the fact that i have to work hard. She id retired so when i say i have to do x, y and z she actually laughs.
When my dd and her grand dd didnt get on she wanted me to force dd to play with her grandchild.
She gave me a lovely necklace for my bday and then asked if i wanted to swap the chain . When i said no i wanted to keep the necklace she made a massive deal about it and thought i said i wanted to take it back. She didnt listen.
I have posted about this but her and her dd ( my best friend) have my dad's attention and i think she feels threatened by me.
The worst thing is when i told my dad i didnt like the weight gain comments he didnt want to know and when she is rude and annoying he just laughs. Tbh i feel so pissed off and its just a matter of time before i snap.

Reduce contact with her. Try and see your dad on his own. Dont let this unpleasant woman annoy you.... she's not worth it.

Its hard to see him alone...they are joined at the hip!

Can you distance yourself?

See your dad without her?

Or call her out on it? “That’s a horrid thing to say. Did you mean to be so rude?”

I wouldn't play into it - pre-empt what she is going to say and don't say things that she is going to react weirdly to.

E.g. don't mention your weight or food or diet or anything like that, then she has no reason to mention it. When she inevitably does you can do the 'Woaaaah omg what are you trying to say' hurt puppy act.

When she says things like 'oh you want to return it' go over the top "oh gosh whyyy would you even suggest it!!!" - make it clear she is being ridiculous.