Anyone else not receive anything for mothers day?

[Paulettepink]

Not even some nice words of appreciation. No card. Nothing. Apparently I'm not his mother so he isn't supposed to get me anything. And our child is too young to choose anything so he didn't have to acknowledge mothers day. Other than us going to take his mum chocolates and a card. (3 hour round trip)

Am I silly for being upset!?

for you OP selfish bastard.

Has he got you anything previous Mother's Day? I think it is so awful when they can't make the most basic of effort.

My mum and stepdad haven't got on since they got married over 20 years ago but even he got her a card off their dogs

I didnt get anything but then im a lone parent. He might not care if you dont get him anything for fathers day tbh, I use to get something for ex for fathers day from the kids(years ago when he was around) and he told me not to get him anything for fathers day anymore 🤷‍♀️ so not everyone wants something

Received nothing, Down to oh. DC are under 5 and I'm a sahm so no handmade card by nursery like a lot of mums of under 5's I'm sure would've got.
Instead I got shouted at...

@hungrymamabear that sounds shit, are you in an abusive relationship? Would starting a thread help?

For a few years (DC 6 & 4 now) I got nothing for Mother's day, which made me unbelievably sad. I dreaded it every year as I knew I would be told "well you're not my mother" - which is total bullshit as I'm the mother to his children FFS.

A particularly bad one was 2 yrs ago, we spent it with my Mum which was a first as we live abroad so not always easy to see her on the day. I got an enormous bunch of flowers for her, card, nice breakfast, and got the children to make her some nice drawings in celebration of her as my mum. DH had nothing organised from the kids for me and my mum felt terrible that she had been spoiled but I had received nothing, not even a lie in as I had been up that morning from 5.30 a.m. with the youngest. She scrambled to organise a pub lunch which she paid for as she felt so bad - which made me feel even worse to be honest - having your mum tell you how sad she is for you!

So last year I decided to not get sad about it, but organise my own mother's day. I bought myself a nice "gift" which I still love, organised a nice lunch and got the children to make me little drawings. I know it all came from me but I felt so much better knowing that I was treating myself and that the children were learning about appreciation of me (I think I deserve it as I do so much for them). DH finally got the bloody hint and yesterday I was given a lie in, lunch out and a little gift from the children. He's not a bad DH, 99.9% of the time he's thoughtful and kind and would do anything for me - but he had a massive mental block with how to treat me on mother's day. I think I've finally cracked it!

to all who have had no mother's day appreciation, you are awesome. x

No but we don't celebrate commercial celebrations like mother's Day, father's Day, valentine's Day,etc. Perhaps share your expectations with him? It certainly would never cross my mind to buy him something for father's Day

I would be upset by this. It really doesn't take much effort to show that you appreciate someone, a card with a nice message and a meal out is not hard. It's just a bit of thought...I would be hurt/disappointed.

I got nothing ... just a sorry I didn’t realise when he came home and saw the cards they made at school. Then he went to bed. This was at 3pm.

I didn’t get anything as I think Mother’s Day is pointless and tacky. It’s cute when little kids make things at school but other than that I don’t want anything. I also don’t get acknowledge it with my Mum. We all ignore it. I’m really really close to all of my kids and to my Mum and that’s what actually matters. Maybe it’s more important to people if they don’t have a good relationship with each other. 🤷🏻‍♀️
I’m always baffled people expect their partners to get them cards for Mothers or Father’s Day on behalf of very small kids and babies. It just seems odd.

Sorry OP, I’m with your partner on this one. You aren’t his Mum.

All those saying they agree with OP [that she's not his DM] but ...

OP expected to go to his DM, when she's not her DM!

Double-standards, much, and no its not about commercialism.

Whata commercial about a lie in, or being brought a cup of tea/breakfast in bed!? Nothing at all,just kindness and consideration to treat someone who's keeping your home running for you.

A nod to that just once a year isn't a horrible thing to do, and teaches DC to realise and respect what others are doing and how to give to others.

DC who do this, want to, and enjoy doing it!

I have seen the love and consideration out into young and older DC preparing 'surprise' breakfast whilst you make yourself stay in bed 'asleep'
It's just lovely thing to do. Life can sweep you away,taking those moments are important I believe

Smotheroffive that's exactly how I feel.

If he didn't celebrate it it would be different. But he does. He seems to be saying he shouldn't be appreciative of me raising his child. (Which I do with very little input from him) i have to wait for said child to show their own appreciation....

Me. I suspect DH forgot.

This doesn't bode well for the future

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I got choccys and cards from the kids and the dog. Dh is considerate but Ive always made sure he gets something too on father's day but the actual day was shit as though I love mil we went to see bil uncle knobhead who drinks too much and couldnt enjoy the pub lunch for all his swearing and inappropriate behaviour in general but particularly to dh.