Is she being passive aggressive?

[trustinonesself]

Not sure if being passive aggressive or i'm overthinking? We we're FaceTiming one another and she had mentioned she had to go and shower for work tomorrow.. however we ended up speaking for another 15 minutes or so due to me rambling.. im known for it! She seemed to be quite short and blunt towards the end of the call.

We text afterwards and she said she hoped I didnt think she was being cold but she did say she had to go and the call has to end at some point.. I text back apologising for rambling on and should have let her go sooner. I then said ive noted it for future reference and that I just get carried away sometimes making the most of the moment (we're long distance)

She simply replied with "Ok. Thats cool". I replied making a joke to lighten the mood saying "you should tell me to put a sock in it in future!" and shes now ignoring me... Have I done anything wrong here? I know it seems trivial but this is just painfully emotionally exhausting... not the first time she acts cold towards me like this?

Jesus youre still rambling on to her through text messages.

She needed to be blunt.

It sounds as if she just doesn't want to carry on a conversation by text as she has things to do.
Nothing passive aggressive, because she told you outright.

Get the message. She’s not being pa she’s stuff to do!
Does long distance mean time difference?
Catch yourself on!

She told you she had to go have a shower.
You kept talking. And talking. And wouldn't let her go. You didn't want the call to end because maybe you are a bit clingy.
'Rambling on' usually means one person is talking, probably about themselves, while the other person has to just sit and wait until it's over.

You sound like someone who needs constant reassurance. That will drive her away really quickly. It’s not an attractive quality

It sounds like you have more time on your hands than her. No big deal, for now.

No, she’s not being passive aggressive, acting cold nor ignoring you. THE CONVERSATION IS FINISHED FOR TODAY!

You need to learn how to end a conversation.

God you Stayed on the phone for an extra 15 mins and then started texting? What exactly do you expect her to reply with to your last text? There is really not much to say to that. She did tell you she had things to do, you didn't listen then tell her to tell you next time.

Sounds like she has stuff to do. You also come across as a little clingy.

As my dad used to say..Leave It!

There's nothing to reply to. She had things to do. Not passive aggressive.

She simply replied with "Ok. Thats cool". I replied making a joke to lighten the mood saying "you should tell me to put a sock in it in future!" and shes now ignoring me... Have I done anything wrong here? I know it seems trivial but this is just painfully emotionally exhausting... not the first time she acts cold towards me like this?

You had just had a full FaceTime conversation where you insisted on keeping talking when she needed to go, then you have this conversation which looks like a completed exchange to me.
I think maybe you need to look at your own social skills here op. Sorry, don't want to be harsh but you sound as if you're being quite demanding of her time and if you're not careful you'll be back on here in a few months because your friend has backed off.
Do you generally have difficulty reading and understanding social cues op? I wonder if this is something you could look into a bit.

You post practically every week about this relationship. It's a disaster. You are both far too immature, you're far too needy, and you're both just completely incompatible. You over analyse every communication you have. She's seemingly forever "cold and distant" towards you, and it's all just drama and angst.

Why do you bother?!

Hi, it doesn't sound passive aggressive to me. Just because she didn't text back doesn't mean she's ignoring you, surely someone has to end the text conversation at some point? People do have their own lives and ending a conversation when she's already said she needs to go do her own thing is no reflection on her feelings for you? Or is there more to this?

She didn't reply because you are rambling on by text now.

She has stuff to do, that is all.

You clearly over analysis and do ramble.

I imagine you ramble and text like this because you are a bit clingy and like to be I touch.

If she tells you, that you need to end the call, she shouldn't have to tell you to put a sock in it. You are trying to keep her engaged even though you know needs to crack on.

While I know you dont mean it, it comes across as annoying. Then the rambling texts.

She isnt being passive or aggressive. She has told you the issue.

Overthinking and acting like this will end the relationship quite quickly

Jesus you sound like a pain in the neck. Sorry but you 'ramble on' for 15 minutes when you know you're making her late, then you tell her it's her fault for not telling you to shut even though she'd already made clear what she needed, now she's 'ignoring you' because she hasn't responded to your latest criticism.

She needs to run a mile.

I agree with what everyone here is saying OP . You need to stop taking everything to heart, listen to people when they say I'm busy just say ok talk later bye! I'm guessing you wont be replying...

How was she ignoring you at 23:45? She told you she had to shower then go to bed. She's probably had a shower and gone to bed. You sound exhausting.

Stop talking before you bore her to death. My DC is like this but he's 7. I sincerely hope he gets some self awareness before he reaches adulthood.

She isn't ignoring you, the conversation just finished.

Sorry, OP but I’m tire reading your post!

That was like a Ronnie Corbett monologue in his chair.

Take the hint. She was being honest & not passive aggressive

Alright everyone I think op has the hint. Not everyone is the same or had the same self awareness/experience hence there being boards called 'relationship help.' Jesus.