Couples councilling - does it work?

[redskyatnight1]

Hi all, I’m looking at having some couples councilling for Dh and I. There is quite a gulf between us at the moment but we’ve been through a really stressful year. We both don’t want to split up.

Did it work for you?

Any kind of facilitated communication will work (if by work you mean help you to communicate and understand each other better) providing that’s what both of you want out of it, and are committed to the same outcome.

Yes thanks we both want to communicate and get back on track. We are literally so battered and bashed after last year. I know we have stopped listening to each other. I know I carry grudges towards him and he probably does towards me.

I’ve seen on here a few times that’s it’s caused more upset than it’s worth though so was looking for some positive outcomes

It can work if you're both honest. It won't work if you're not prepared for the worst. Go into it with the hope to get to the truth and nothing else. The truth about you, them, your relationship.