We were seeing each other for about 4 months when he said he didn't feel able to cope with a serious relationship. When we began dating he was going through a bereavement which he claims has given him too to deal with at once. He said 'the time isn't right'.
Usually I'd just cut things off with an ex but I didn't want him not to be in my life anymore. Furthermore, I kind of thought he might just disappear anyway. But he hasn't. He calls/texts every day more or less and he initiates meeting up doing date-like things often. I think I could cope with a friendship if it was a bit more distant.
He says he is doing a little better but still working through things. I don't get the impression he is seeing anyone because he seems to spend much of his free time with me when he isn't working. He gushes about what a wonderful person I am & looks at me adoringly - and I suddenly feel really ANGRY about it. If he feels all these things about me...why the hell have I been downgraded to friendship status?
At the same time I really value him in my life. A few days ago I had the day from hell and he listened to my rant and helped me talk through all the options. I felt way better by the end of it. But this seems like a mess and I don't know what to do. I know I'll be heartbroken without him if I cut it off and will miss him terribly. Help?