CF or LTB?

[TheStaff]

A month ago DH said he wouldn't need feeding tomorrow Sunday as he was out walking and would be having lunch out. I asked if he was going walking with his brother, which he usually does on a Sunday, no it was with someone he was going on a walking holiday with. I said that I didn't know he was going on holiday, well I told you he says and it's in the diary! He had mentioned a few months previously he'd met a friend he used to work with and had been asked to go on a walking holiday, but no more was said, so I was unaware.
Do you think it is unreasonable that a H should book a holiday without OK it with you?
Children have flown the nest but we need DDog cover.
Anyway here is a confession. I looked at his mobile yesterday, no particular reason but he was out walking never takes his phone so I looked at emails....
I found a series of emails about an accommodation booking cock-up?
Then today I look at the diary and the walking holiday dates have been changed, with a new date in the diary just after he gets back - for a football match.
So he lies to me, he lies to his friends.

Well yes he shouldn't have booked a holiday without saying it

So I guess yours is a long marriage. I would’ve thought you have conventions on how you do stuff wrt to your social lives.

Is this the first time he has failed to communicate on this sort of thing.

And I’m also guessing this is the first time have snooped at his phone?

So this is all out-of-character?

I’m not sure I get the part about lying to his friends, has he lied to them?

And.... is this friend a female friend?

At the mo I am prepared to give the benefit of the doubt and vote CF.

• disclaimer - am prepared for a dripfeed and may change my vote to LTB

Latent Phase
It is the first time I've snooped on his phone, I don't particularly distrust him (because of his sexual problem a sexual affair is a non starter and because he has all the signs of Aspergers an emotional affair isn't necessary for him (I hope I've surmised that correctly but he really doesn't have an emotional connection to anyone - parents, children, me).
The lying to friends is that he emailed that there was an accommodation cock-up - there maybe ? - but there is a new football match in the diary and when I questioned him why he was changing the dates - he said it was because of the football...