Single again in my 30s

[mynameisnotbarbara]

Feeling such a failure. My partner is moving out. We'd been together 5 years. Relationship with my son's father failed, now this one too. I feel so guilty for putting my son through two broken relationships.

Most people round me are getting married and having babies, now here I am taking steps back. My career is in tatters, Mother's Day has been shit. I've had to go part time at work due to son's SEN.

I loved my twenties. My thirties suck so far.

Sorry for the moan, just needed to get all that out there.

Sorry you are feeling this way. Sometimes it's really hard. But better times are to come. Try and turn the negative into a positive. Is there ever anything that you wanted to do? Learning an instrument etc. If money is an issue, maybe a running/hiking group/choir. Sorry if none of these are possible but you get what I mean. Don't compare your life to others, you never know what's going on ib their lives. It's better to be single than in a bad relashionship xx

Thanks. Have told DC tonight. He was so, so sad, and then very angry. Doesn't want to talk to me or my partner. Has declared that he wants to go and live with his dad (where he doesn't even have his own room!).

This is just utterly, utterly, shit.

really sorry OP, that does sound shit. I'm sure your son will come round when he's processed the news, and you'll both be happier in the end than if the relationship was not working. Maybe when he's calmer, try and do something special together that you both enjoy, and see if you can talk it through. Sending my sympathy and best wishes for the future.

Ahh OP sorry to hear about your son, it'll be quite a shock for him I'm sure, but give him some time make sure you're there for him (not saying you're not) and I agree as the PP has said, maybe a nice mother son day when its calmed down a little. Its bloody tough all round isn't it

Me and my boyfriend split up a week ago and I wasn't in a great place mentally myself to begin with, let alone us splitting a I truly love this man. My son is only 3 and although he mentions him, I'm lucky I dont have to really explain but its bloody hard :(

Hang in there ! You can and will get through this, just like all of us in similar situations will.

This was my first relationship in 4 years and its breaking my heart but its giving me focus to focus on my training to become a teaching assistant and really getting stuck in. I just wish I could switch all these feelings off and go back to how I was, but it's a lite lesson isn't it

Give yourself time and time to look after yourself, your son will come around and you'll come out the other side

My situation is nothing compared although I feel just as shattered, feel free to PM me if you need anybody xx

Thank you. This just feels so heart wrenchingly horrendous. The relationship is generally a very good one which makes it worse.

I have asked him to leave because he's racked up credit card debt three times without me knowing. £2.5k in the last couple of months, after 9 months of great progress trying to pay down debt, after the second time I forgave him. He's destroyed all of our lives with his stupid, stupid financial incontinence.