WWYD? Mention it or not?

[MirkleMe]

Been living with my OH for a short period of time. Sex is amazing and regular. Thought everything was going well.

My phone died so I used his phone to Google something last night. Thought I'd be nosy and look at his history.

Saw that he'd been looking at porn occasionally which is fine but inbetween the porn video he last watched was 11 hits for a site that finds people in your area that are looking for casual sex. I went on the site and its a set questions about what you are looking for so 11 hits, which is what he pressed, gets you to question 11. So he must have answered 11 questions like are you male or female etc and then stopped.

I'm guessing the site popped up as advert and then he clicked through the questions, gave up and then went back to the porn. He'd had a couple of drinks and was bored while I was at work I guess.

Should I tell him what he found? And let him realise I'd been looking at his history? Or keep it to myself and live with no explanation?

I'm afraid if someone I was in a relationship with moved from a porn site into/onto filling out a form to get access to a site for people looking for sex partners locally, I'd considering the relationship to be low value and low priority in my life and thinking about ending it sooner or later.

No doubt if challenged he say he was just going to look out of curiosity and the fact that he stopped showed he wasn't really interested.

But for me it's crossing a line, and what if he pressed on the next time (and you didn't know about it).

It goes from detached porn to actively browsing on hook up sites for real people and that's the line for me. Even if he only wanted to browse for curiosity/stimulation it would make me very uncomfortable and wonder what he's capable of.

If you tell him you know, he'll just not do it again or hide it. If you can be bothered stating in the relationship I'd just day nothing and wait and watch. You might see more that would make you want to end it.

In any case I wouldn't be making any major commitments to him or getting any further invested and would have an escape/end of relationship plan.

*staying

The smart thing to do is say nothing, but to watch and wait.

What Morality said.

I would feel very glad to find this out, because to me, it’s proof that this man does not think I am a priority. Therefore I should
not make him one either.

I would be re-thinking the relationship and looking to move out before wasting any more time.

The "smart" thing to do with a man that watches porn and clicks through to sex hook up sites is to throw him back, IMO

Well, what explanation is going to work for you? There's the one you've already told yourself quite effectively - I doubt he'll come up with anything better. His'll probably only spoil it.

The question is really, where's your line in the sand?

Did you check the rest of his history? From my experience, if he's done it once, he'll more than likely do it again.

Speaking from experience ( a friend told me..) those things pop up like wildfire sometimes between each video choice...so wouldnt automatically assume he has registered?

Those sites can pop up multiple times after each other. Give him the benefit of the doubt.