What is a normal relationship

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What is a normal relationship with your partner supposed to be like? I grew up watching my mum be abused by her partners... so I don't know what normal is.

How do you split chores, finances, child care and still have time for each other?
What does a normal family life look like?

Noones relationship is 'normal'. You find your own groove.

To me, equal effort should be put in by both partners in the household, finances and romance. Thats not to say you should pay the same for things or do the exact same amount of housework but you find what seems fair from both sides with what you both earn and have time for.

You should also communicate well. Thats the key to as 'normal' a relationship as possible. You should never feel you cannot speak up about anything you are unhappy with, although it shouldnt always have to be argument either. You should value each others opinions but also have your own mind too. Its not always lovey dovey sparkles and light but as long as you can have a mature discussion about the stuff thats not then thats a good sign you have a healtht relationship.

Kindness, consideration and being nice to one another goes a long way. If you can co-operate without constant arguing then most things fall into place fairly naturally.

92AP has pretty much put it perfectly.
The is no such thing as a 'normal' relationship, it's what works for you.

Communication is key, even when you're unhappy TALK, even if it means making a cup of tea and sitting in another room for 10 minutes to chill first.

Sharing chores, sometimes I do more than him, sometimes he does more than me (except cooking, he has almost burnt the house down one to many times)

If you live together, shared finances help (doesn't work for everyone, but it does for us, it didn't with my ex) we have joint accounts we put equal money in to one for all of the bills, Inc food shop and fuel, the other savings. But we also have separate accounts for our disposal incomes, mainly because I'm big on where spending is going and if I could see where he was spending money, I'd know what I'm getting for my birthday and Christmas 😂

On the child care side, I'm yet to experience as our first is due in July, I suspect until I go back to work I will be taking responsibility for most of that, and probably do most, if not all of the house work too, but I'll be here to do it while he's at work, so it just makes sense (this could all go wrong because you know, best laid plans etc)

We both work full time Monday to Friday, he goes to the gym every weekday evening, so the weekend is our time. Even then sometimes the most we spend together is when we get up, go to bed and eating lunch and dinner (he's a gamer and I'm a big reader, so we can be in the same room and only conversation is "drink?")

But as above, it's not healthy or normal to feel like you can't talk about things. If you know you can do that, I wouldn't worry too much.

I think that maybe a healthy relationship would be a better thing to aspire to. As everyone else has said, what is normal for one couple would be bloody awful for another.

For me, it's having roughly the same ideas about money, children and housework. It's about honesty and loyalty. Neither of us would tolerate being lied to and we both put the other one before anyone else. It's about not calling each other names when we argue and not saying things in anger that can't be taken back. It's about enjoying each other's company but also giving each other the freedom to do what we want to do and supporting each other.