Lovebombed/ghosted

[YesQueen]

How do you deal with it? I haven't dated since I was at uni, am 35 now
Met someone, going really well and basically looking back on it I think he love bombed me. He's now ghosted me, despite the fact we work at the same place (different buildings/jobs etc) and I'm struggling
I miss him, and am going between anger and upset and feeling very burnt

made a thing of me not getting attached because he said that tends to happen with him?(!) but was very vocal about how much he liked me

He lovebombed them too. You are well rid.

I have been there and it’s painful. But good men are not like this. Delete, block and forget. It’s the only way to deal with this headfuck.

Yeah I would have rather he said oh this isn't working or even I need space for a couple of weeks. It's awkward

Exactly OP.

As hard as it is since you opened up please don't waste another second on him.
And when he realises your no longer interested don't let him lure you back in as people like that always do.
You have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince. If you find them young in life or when your 90 when you find the one the wait is worth it.
Please don't think there is no one there for you.

TBH I don't want to date. I actually feel like he did it for a joke or a bet and it sucks

@Olikingcharles , I remember you from another thread.
It is difficult.
You have to block and remove contact information from all sources so you are not tempted.

Argh. Struggling today. Saw him and he walked off in the other direction. I'm in that shitty place in between missing him horrendously and wanting to text saying "fuck knows what I've done, but you don't just ignore someone DICKHEAD"
< vents >

I mean he slept next to me, told me stuff that was important to him, had sex... and now he can't even be within 20m of me?!

I'm sorry op that is such a shit way to behave.

Given you see each other in work life, I would have it out with him over text or phone though purely not to cause a scene at work.

Whatever his reason, it may realign your hurt and missing him.

@combatbarbie I can't because he won't reply...
We can avoid each other, it's mostly lunch times that are trickier but I'm perfectly capable of being near to him and ignoring him, I just don't get why he is avoiding me unless it's to make himself feel better. He can damn well feel uncomfortable and I hope he does

As someone who dated throughout all of my thirties (every loon in London in felt like at times) I met my now husband at 40. What I learned was that it shouldn't feel like hard work - if it is - just smile and wave and move on. One day you will meet someone wants to be with you.

Read he's just not that into you. It makes sense. Don't let this man determine how you feel about yourself. You feared getting hurt - you have been so nothing left to fear. You will be more than OK.

He sounds utterly embarrassing OP, he's done you a favour rrally- if you'd have actually dated you'd just be sat there wondering where all the love bombing from the start went and be miserable. He clearly has emotional problems, and is acting immaturity even if that weren't the case.

He's even indicated that this happens all the time OP so whilst it's hard to wrap your head around because he made you feel special, really the issue is that to him, you aren't, it was just stuff he said to get a response that made him feel good/secure that you liked him. He's not interested once he's got it so that shows that all about him, and not about you at all, none of this is about you.

I'd try to stop worrying about why he's doing what, start viewing him as a bit of an embarrassment and go about your workday as normal. It gets better once you take back control