Loves me but doesn't like me

[LadyBahBahBah]

22 years in and that's what I'm told.

As in a permanent state of dislike or a fleeting feeling during a stressful time/horrible argument?

The former is not good news for the relationship, and I'd want to be knowing exactly why he felt that way so we could figure out where to go from there. The latter is probably quite normal, although perhaps not to be told that that's how he's feeling.

Sorry though, sounds miserable

Is it due to an specific incident? Did something happen or is it their overall opinion?

More information is needed. I love my kids, sometimes, I really don’t like their attitude or behaviour!

We are moving house. I had to make the decision to have my dog PTS on Wednesday. Suddenly he's in tears - can't cope etc.
He keeps crying and is pissed off that I pointed out she was MY dog and I paid for everything to do with MY dog he had no interest in walking her,feeding her, poo picking.
I miss her so much but apparently I need to pander to his 'grief '

I think I would sooner be with someone who really liked me than someone who 'only' loved me.

Sounds like you are both going through a tough time?

What an ass! So he’s decided to use that even to do nothing and take away from your grief.

How is he usually? Would he normally be helpful and caring?

Why did you feel the need the point that stuff out?

Nope he's normally an arsehole. It's the death of my dog and the having to move house that is pushing him into being a grade A wankstain!

@Yogawannabe ?

Wow. You sound like you are the arsehole to be honest!

Firstly, so sorry, losing a loved pet is heartbreaking .

Your dog, that you took all responsibility for, now he’s heartbroken , so you’re supposed to suspend your grief, and comfort him.

I’ll bet there’s a huge back story of selfishness...

If hes normally an arse hole anyway, time to go. You sound like you don't like each other. But after 22 years thats got to hurt. Is he depressed? Attention seeking?

Why did you feel the need to point out it was “YOUR” dog etc?
I would find that really upsetting. My dad used to do that after my childhood dog died, it was pointless and mean. I’m surprised you think that’s ok?

She was MY dog . I bought her from the council pound , paid for her food, walked her and ultimately paid for her to be PTS because she was my responsibility.
He is being an arse because suddenly she was "our" dog.
We also have 4 cats which I also have to feed , clean litter trays . Clean up sick and hair balls.

I'm not surprised he said that. You have been really mean.

Grief Olympics - I'm more devastated than you, you have no right to be upset! That's what you're saying to him.

Being resentful over doing more of the animal care than him, has no relationship to his grief at losing a pet. They are two separate issues. YABVU.

I don't see why you told him it was your dog. Even if you bought it and did everything for it...it doesn't mean he's not upset.

It's like you were saying he's no right to be upset.

What you said wasn't very nice and don't blame him for saying what he did.

People are being horrible provocative here. Sounds like he didn't give a shot about the dog when it needed some care from a grown human adult but was suddenly loved by him egeb someone else had to take a decision about its future. Did the muppet not have a tongue in his head?

Why was the dog put to sleep, was there not time to speak about it before?

Do you like him ?

What do you mean the OP is being mean?...
why does every thing have to be equally in a relationship, the OP is upset and it sound like her Dp has jumped on board to take over who's more upset.
If you take care and walk, feed a dog take all responsibility and then so tit who couldn't be arse acts like he's suddenly a caring owner I'd be mad to. This is a place where people come rant and that's what the OP is doing.

If you had bought, painted the bathroom and clean up afterwards and you dp told people how he did it (because the bathroom is in your joint home) you'd be pissed.

Sounds like he didn't give a shit about the dog

What’s giving you that idea? Usually one parent does the majority of the child equivalent things with a baby and there’s usually always a more hands on parent with older children too so would it be fair for that parent to act as OP has in those cases? No, of course not! Because it’s unnecessarily nasty and childish!

Wow, some of you are being arse! It sounds like he couldn’t give a shit about the dog and now that it’s gone it’s all about him!

It also sounds like he’s typically an arsehole and is just amping it up now.

OP, why are you moving? Do you want to be with him???