So I've been NC for over 12 months with my dad . This was down to years of him deciding not speaking to me for long periods then speaking to me but being nasty or ignoring me etc . It's emotional abuse if I can describe it as that . Anyway final straw was sending me a nasty message so I blocked him and decided that was enough.
I'm still in contact with my mum she understands but will occasionally say need to sort this out with my dad but I've told her that until he apologises and changes his ways I'm not interested. I've 2 DBs 1 has messaged me to say I need to sort this out for mum . I've told him the same as my dm he said he understands . My other dB has basically said if I don't speak to dad basically we are done . I've said you've not even asked what's happened ( or he's got my dads version) I've told him I'd never take my dads side over him because I know how unreasonable he is .
I'm just so fed up and upset that I'm made to be the unreasonable one even though I've not said or done anything just cut contact with my dad . Tbh he was doing that anyway refusing to come to family occasions ignoring me walking out of the room if I came to visit etc .
How do I deal with my family ? Do I just except that they all take his side and to except that I can't have a relationship with my family because of my dad ?
I just feel it never ends .
Sorry I've gone on but some advice would be great .