Feeling sorry for partner

[Nohardx]

Me and my partner are engaged

Last night I seen a video on Facebook, it was a compilation of funny stag do videos, he opened it and just completely broke down. He said he was very jealous of the people in the video, saying he would never have anything like that because he has no friends. He said being a child of a soldier he moved around every 2 years and had to make new friends all the time, and after his last move he just gave up trying! 10 years later it's all he thinks about, if he goes into town and sees a group of blokes it just makes him feel sad!

He also suffers mental health problems, about 2 months ago he talked down off a bridge by the police and ever since has been under the crisis team, he says he feels very lonely and when he is in a social situation, with my friends he just feels very awkward, constantly trying to think of things to say!

I really feel sorry for him, he is a lovely bloke, I hate seeing him down like this

Sorry to hear of your DP's upset, but it is good that he is sharing this with you. If it is available in your area, IAPTS can help with a referral for free counseling to help him.

Do you have any friends with partners who you could both meet up with socially? It could help build his confidence and develop into a friendship for him, where he could meet up with your friend's DP.

If he has particular interests, are there any groups or organisations he could join that meet up regularly?

Also, perhaps if he is interested in a particular topic he could volunteer at a related museum for a few hours a month?

I didn't have a proper hen do and always feel a bit low seeing people's hen do videos / photos too. It reminds me that I don't have a particularly close relationship with my mum, have no sisters and no close circle of girl friends. I have lots of acquaintances and some friends but just nobody close enough for a proper Hen.

In hindsight I wish I'd have waited to get married. Made more effort forging strong friendships. Because on the morning or the wedding I did feel there was something missing. And looking back at pics I still feel it.

I really do sympathise with your partner. I'm currently trying hard to build friendships with other mums my dd's age. But it's not easy.

Are you sure with his MH situation that now is the best time to be thinking about a wedding? Planning for a wedding and the day itself is very emotional and stressful.

Do you friends have partners he can be friendly with? What about his interests? Does he have any hobbies that he can go to and make friends?