Hello mums,
I am the mom of a wonderful one year old daughter, currently in a relationship with her dad.
I need your opinion, because I reached the end of the line here.
I'm foreign and all my family and friends are abroad.
My partner family is here but I don't feel I can discuss this with them, obviously is about their beloved son/brother etc.
So, I have been experiencing hormonal imbalances since after birth, turns out my thyroid is not right so my self esteem is down, spot hair loss weight gain, horrible job. On top I feel anxious of being a mum, I don't particularly enjoy it as my daughter is constantly sick with flu, allergy, cold, rashes you name it. It has been hard being away from family, with my partner being my only rock.
So things have started to go downhill, because I have also a lack of sex drive.
He is the total opposite: healthy, good job, good looking, sex drive high.
He does stand by me, but he doesn't do anything about it, doesn't caress me, ask me how I'm doing, bring me cake, take me out, tell me I'm ok I'll be fine, he mostly keeps himself busy with his life outside home, telling me : life goes on doesn't wait for you.
So, I have been recently very sick with flu and fatigue, doing blood tests etc on top going to work and looking after our child. Yesterday I had a horrible day, I was sick and I had to look after my sick child, just an awful day. I was counting the minutes for him to go back but instead, 6 o clock went by and he called me to say oh, I went for drinks with my colleagues. I'll be back later.
When I report to him that I am disappointed, he says sorry I didn't mean it.
What kind of man only puts his priorities first? I would have ran home to make soup and made sure he had paracetamol, like caring for eachother, like in a family.
I feel deflated, as this is only one example.
On Sundays he goes football, and off it goes the potential family time, because I work Saturdays. Things like that. I put him first, he doesn't or perhaps is culture.
I feel I need more but instead he acts like all angry and annoyed because I'm always moaning.
He slept in the other room last night, whilst I was in the room with my daughter who was crying all night, not once did he come to see if I needed help.
Are we at the end of the line? Differences? Different needs?
Any experience shared would be highly appreciated.
Thanks