So sick of it.

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Ladies am I in the wrong? Me and my ex haven't been back together long now, I struggled(still am) to get over the past and everything we've been through but I'm coping. For the last couple of days I've had absolutely no patience for him at all. Yesterday I had to stay in cleaning whilst he went to his mums after work to "sleep" and play his games console and then went out for a lush meal for her bday- which is fine but I have the right to be frustrated. He also is going out on Mother's Day for a meal which is also fine but my daughters to young to understand An I really wanted to chill. (Neither me or my daughter was invited to either meal) He then moaned I was in phone although I said I would come off if he wanted. Then this morning I've been a bit off because I've chipped my knee cap and pulled out my hip so I'm in alot of pain and he's constantly moaning that I'm off with him and "he needs love and stuff" like wtf I almost actually ended it with him. I'm in the middle of anti depressants so I am a bit off and OTT lately but am I overreacting? I feel he really doesn't get it? Literally I've never been so angry as I have been the past couple of days

It sounds like you are still very angry about what has happened in the past with him and are probably frustrated at being back in the situation that you were before - aka, being with him and having to accept it.

When I got back with my ex I was exactly the same, little things he did just irritated me. Then I knew I had made a mistake and felt trapped. Getting back with an ex feels wonderul at first, so many shared memories and they know you so well... then the honeymoon period ends and you remember everything they used to do that irritated you so much, and the insecurities creep back in and you remember why you ended it.

"he needs love and stuff"
Ahhhh bless his little cotton socks! NOT!!!!!
He sounds like a needy mummy's boy.
He was and Ex for a reason.
Why did you get back with him when you know all this about him?
He won't change, no matter what he says.
I think you've realised that getting back together was a mistake.
So undo it!!

He sounds like a selfish, self-absorbed twat to be honest. Let him run off to Mummy's for a sleep and playtime while you get on with adult life.

Honestly, you'll be much better off without him.

Honestly I feel I should say he makes a lot of effort for us. We're not allowed a dog where we're living but he stays with me 6 days a week (one day he's at home to chill and play his Xbox cause he used to do it all the time) and he drives for a living and then drives to his parents before and after work so I don't risk having the dog all day long and he does put up with my drama

How much financial contribution is he making to your household bills?

He gives me £200 a month for baby

one day he's at home to chill and play his Xbox cause he used to do it all the time

🤨 is he a teenager?

Do you get a day to just 'chill'?

Nothing you've said makes it sound like getting back together was a good idea. Sounds like everything is on his terms??

Honestly I feel I should say he makes a lot of effort for us.

Really? How? By sleeping and playing Xbox? I'm not sure what the dog has to do with anything?

Just because he had to do that with the dog everyday even tho he drives for a living as well just so he can stay with us. We stopped living together in September 17 after we broke up and since he's lived at mine once for a couple months but other than that he just stayed once a week or a couple days a week or whatever but I've asked him to stay the 6 x

HE makes no effort at all

Without being rude how old are you - this is not a relationship at all. He sounds like a teenager who is playing at being a family before

Who says you have drama because I suspect you dont and its all him making you feel like it is

Op are you Welsh? The way I read what you've written sounds like the way my friends talk.

@Quartz2208 I'm 20, he's 23, we got together& pregnant when I was 16, by drama i mean my family like my dad and that have fucked off, and my own personal problems like my mental health. @Livedandlearned my family are. I used to go visit my dad over there and I got into when I was younger. I don't have an accent but I get asked all the time if I'm welsh because of how I say things.

Just because he had to do that with the dog everyday even tho he drives for a living as well just so he can stay with us.

I don't see why this counts as effort? Most normal adults with a driving job, or any other job for that matter, still have to see to the responsibilities of actual every day life on top of work.
I run a business, have a dog, 3 horses and 2 kids to look after..... I don't get a day to Xbox and chill (not that I'd want one!)

Sorry but he sounds like an extra child rather than a partner

@wishywashy6 I agree with you in some parts I guess it's what he's been constantly telling me. We were sat up hospital all night last night for me. He then had he best friend in his van at work today so I asked to take our child which we've done loads of times before. He then drops her back super early she's soaked through her nappy and her face to filthy. When I complained saying u could have rung me I'm busy.and complained she soaked he said he was running super behind at work and work comes first. I feel like I appreciate everything he does but also I can't help being angry with him ALL the time.

How old is your child?

How can he take her with his work?

Why are you with him? Is he living with you or not? You have a dog that only stays with you part time? You injured yourself and he was saying he needs love and attention? WTF!!!

He sounds like a manchild, needing to go to mommy’s and play games and chill. He has a child himself and needs to man the f’ up.

Any partner should be helping with his/her partners mental health, physical health and children. That is basic needs being met. Not extra!

@CanuckBC our child is 2, my partner drives for a living but has to stop every hour or just over and get out of the van in which she does too, he's got his best friend with him to help out. It's been done loads before. I wouldn't have suggested it if I wasn't in agony. He stays here 6 days a week and has the one at his mums. He has dinner there every work night because he has to go bCk to pick up the dog which actually stays at his mums throughout the day because my landlord don't allow dogs( dog is only here when partner is). I have never felt so much anger for someone. I don't hardly see my family at all. And many friends are non existent and I can't imagine living without him. Yes I've been OTT lately because I haven't been on my medication( changing over) but I feel my anger is affecting my relationship with my little girl and I don't know if it's my own built up anger or it's just towards him.

It doesnt matter who is in the right or who is wrong but I am sorry OP this relationship is toxic for both of you and your child. For her sake you are better apart

Why dont you see your family

@Quartz2208 me and my dad have never seen eye to eye. But it became really toxic and a fight broke out and I had to call the police so I don't go round there anymore and it effects me seeing my mum and brother and the rest of my family sort of all have there own life's they don't make any effort to contact me. I used to see my Nan a lot but not so much now there's been a lot going on as my aunty just passed away.

Oh OP I see - this isnt a normal and healthly relationship either