Daughter's father's funeral

[Getaldine1210]

My daughter is 23. She had not been seen by her father for over 20 years.
By chance she found out two days ago that he had died.
She wants to go to the funeral. He has children by several wives/partners.
She is worried that she will be turned away.
I have told her she is as much his child as any of the others.
She was hoping to have some of his ashes (Not allowed).
Does anyone have any experience or knowledge of attending a funeral in these circumstances?

Yes a funeral, like a wedding, is supposed to be a public ceremony, for anyone.

It sounds as thought there will be a lot of horribly conflicted DC of his, because of his lack of care for them. It might have been better though than an horrific relationship.

Maybe this will be a healing experience for many which such things can be as a coming together. You can never tell how it will be of course,but hope the dynamic will be kind and considerate all round.

If my father hasn't shown any interest in me for 20 year's i wouldn't be going to his funeral, don't understand why the ex wife would want to attend as well,

DC need closure and ex wife is there for support.

Horrible dynamics potentially to navigate, at a complex time for all the DC to face and process.