Emotional abuse and how to move forward

[BrandyMyLove]

Hi all. Not a regular poster but have been here for a while. I am after some advice regarding some emotional abuse. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for 3 years. Escalated during pregnancy. Pretty text book. He Denys any abuse. Abuse is bad enough for a meeting to be held regarding mine and DCs safety. He's not seeing DC at the moment but I'm sure he will have access if and when he takes me to court. Not paying any maintenance. Thinks I'm the wicked witch from the West for not facilitating any sort of contact with his DC and doesn't understand that I don't want to be in a room with him. Having lurked on here for a while I've noticed this is quite a common situation for women to be in.

I went back to the house the other day to get some things. He had destroyed specific photographs of the daughter of the people I am staying with (she's only 14) which worries me a bit.

I don't know what to do. I can't stand him. He scares me and I don't know what's going on in his head.

Has anyone been in this situation and come out ok the other side?

Anyone?

Don't want to read and not reply. Been there, still going through it. When you find your (productive) anger, it will get easier. It really does.

Playing Kelis "Caught out there" helps.

All the to you.

I would speak to Womens Aid particularly if you have not already done so.

Who has organised this meeting re yours and DCs safety?.

I also think he would simply use the DC as weapons to further punish you with, do you think that such a man should see his children at all going forward?. He does not give a fig for his children either and he should be paying maintenance for them. I would seriously consider pursuing a maintenance claim, this is something I would also be asking Womens Aid about.

Women's Aid have been fantastic.

It's a MARAC meeting based on the results from a risk assessment they did. Personally I think they scored me too highly but hey ho.

I don't think he is a nice man in the slightest. He won't be any good for my DC. I just know that a court will grant access as they always do. Not a clue where to go from here as I'm so drained by him!