I want a divorce but too stuck in fear

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Just that, I'm too scared to act on it, can't face the fall out, the upheaval, no where else to go and a 4year old to consider.

Not much to go on with your post to be honest.

Probably your first step is to speak to a solicitor and get an idea of what your options are, if there's property and assets to consider.

And have a look at the benefits calculator to see what you’re entitled to. Don’t hang on for years getting more and more frustrated. That’s shot for you and for your child.

Why are you scared? Are you scared of him? Do you guys own a home together? Do you work?

If things are not good together, after separation things get so much better being single. Been there, done that. You feel so much freer as you no longer are walking on eggshells. You can be yourself again. It is difficult figuring things out, but it is doable.

Let us know more details and the woman here can paint you into the right direction and give you more advice.

I read ‘Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway.’

Brilliant book, helped me leave.

I'll tell you what's scarier than divorce. Being stuck for years on end with someone you're not happy with, living a miserable existence.

Do you work? Do you have family or friends? A house together?

I left my exh when DS was 10 months old. I had no job, no money. I was lucky that I could go and stay with my mum for a couple of months until I applied for benefits and got a place of my own.

You can do it. Yes it's hard but honestly I can't even explain how wonderful I felt when I did it. I just kept thinking "I'm free."

Fear can feel paralysing, however the alternative of staying in the same situation is what pushed me to leave. Speak a few solicitors who offer a free first half hour,and women's aid can help.