Zero to little sensation after 3 Kids

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Morning,

Me and my other half have 3 kids, a very traumatic and lengthy 2nd birth caused allot of damage to my nether region ;-)
After the birth of our 3rd (2016 Happy Accident) I had 2 surgeries, 1 to correct bladder issues, and the other to tighten, lift floors and remove excess skin etc, and fix a badly patched tear from Birth number 2 (2014).
After this I also underwent non invasive procedures, like the Laser treatment, constant use of Kegel machines, multiple daily sets of Pelvic floor exercises, Physio appointments, you name it, for pretty much a total of 5 Year now.. I have done it all in the hope of getting some sensation back during sex, but to no avail, my husband and I have had lengthty discussions on what he feels, and has 100% assured me it has nothing to do with "space" or "friction".

Do you lovely people know if any other treatments or options?
The lack of joy is putting a massive strain on the relationship and is increasing frustration for both of us.

Thanks

Me and my other half have 3 kids, a very traumatic and lengthy 2nd birth caused allot of damage to my nether region ;-)

Why are you winking about trauma to your genitals

I sincerely doubt anyone here is going to have a magic solution for you, keep going back to your doctor and asking them for help until either you find a solution or you’re sure it’s the end of the road and they’ve done all they can.

It's not clear from your post what the exact problem is, other than 'lack of joy' ?

Physically you've been through a lot and have clearly tried to repair the damage wrought by childbirth. Physical pleasurable feelings often radiate from the clitoris (which covers a large area) and is rarely damaged by childbirth, so orgasm should still bring joy.

Or does penetration hurt? If so there is a small op called Fenton's procedure which removes painful scar tissue so restores elasticity to the vagina (scar tissue hurts and doesn't stretch).

Or is your H experiencing some issue? I can't really offer more specific advice without knowing the problem.

starbrightnight. luckily the clitoris is fine, and no it doesn't hurt.
The issue is there is no feeling when H goes in, I cant feel anything inside, even though there is just about enough room for 2 fingers..

Stacktherocks, The wink was purely because i was avoiding saving vagina, and thought i'd say nether region.

Good luck.

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Trauma not tramua

Ukgift2016
The answer to your question was in the OP's opening post. She said her 3rd child was due to a happy accident.
The OP is asking if anyone knows of any other treatments or options she has.

She isn't asking for judgement. She hasn't posted this in AIBU.

Have you got some nerve damage from the birth injury/procedures? There's not an awful lot of sensation int here anyway, it's all in your vulva. He'll just have to spend more time on the outside to help you get off...

vivariumvivariumsvivaria: He does his job on the outside pretty well :-P No complaints there.. Haha

Seeing all other treatments have had little to no effect I am going to have to assume its nerve damage, to the point where sensation is minimal.
The laser treatment was also suppose to help with nerve damage, but as far as I am aware its tricky to repair or get back..

@ukgift2016 - what a ridiculous comment to make. So judgemental and unhelpful.

Jean1234... I know right.. Such a gift to society...

@Jean1234 ridiculous Jean? But isn't it the truth? Actions in our lives have consequences.

She had issues with her previous births which results in trauma to her vagina. Having a third baby would obviously cause more damage and OP decided to make that choice.

Hardly ridiculous to point out the obvious.

@ukgift2016 just because the first two births caused damage that doesn't automatically mean a third will.

My first caused damage, I spoke to a consultant before the second and they said they couldn't predict what, if any, damage it could cause. Second caused no damage whatsoever.

I had similar, CMM.

Took several years to get better/get used to it, to be honest, I'm not sure which it was. Doesn't bother me now, though and we have no disappointments.

Other than my DH is less diligent than yours seems to be

Speak to your on/gyne honestly I think internal sensation fades with age vs childbirth trauma. So more due to hormonal changes perimenopause? Also weight gain can affect the push and pull of tissue?

It could be a tight band of internal scar tissue that has caused the lack of feeling. The Fenton's I mentioned earlier restored feeling inside for me after many years of pain or numbness. To be clear, it restored the internal 'ache' I used to feel when aroused yet hadn't had in all the years since childbirth.

It's very likely nerve damage due to the initial trauma and then the subsequent procedures. It's highly unlikely to come back unfortunately and any further procedures might just make it worse.

I've got a 3 inch wide strip across my lower abdomen which has no sensation whatsoever due to my c section scar. I can literally stick pins in it without realising. Yours is probably similar, just internal rather than abdominal