would you reatliate?

[painrush]

if your family life was damaged by someone you didnt know, but you had the wherewithal to retaliate, would you do it?

It is hard to offer advice without knowing what the situation is tbh.

I was in an abusive relationship, when it all ended i was so angry that he could carry on with his life and i couldn't carry on mine "normally" the scars ran really deep and i needed counselling for a long time, it affected my relationships with everyone around me, i wanted him to hurt too but i didn't know how i would be able to hurt him as much as he had hurt me so i left it and moved on with my life.

Turns out that was the best thing I could ever have done - for him to know that i was happier without him, that i had built my life up and made it a million times better than it ever would have been with him, the fact i had met a wonderful man (my dp) and changed my job, personality, looks and my parenting skills, all for the better, all without him in my life, meanwhile he lost his house, his freedom, his job, he's older and no wiser - what more could i have asked for?

feeling ok today (and over weekend).

getting by one day at a time.

thanks all