So I’ve been with my partner for just over 3 years. He’s always been quite shit at keeping the house clean and apparently just can’t see anything around him that needs doing. We had all the arguments of me always asking him to do things and me having to explain that if I don’t ask he dosent do. I feel I have every right to be mad that my almost 30 year old partner just sits about on his xbox at 1.30pm whilst I’m raising our children amongst all the other domestic tasks. I’m resenting that I never get time away from the kids but then know that if I left them with him he’s probably just get stressed and end up shrieking at them because god forbid they may get in the way of the TV.
It’s not just that’s, he’s now started occasionally name calling and manipulating me. He called me a snob the other day which really upset me. Now he will do this thing where he will suggest we go out for dinner and if I say no he gets arsey and says that I decide everything and we never do anything he wants to do ect ect. Then we end up going and I have a miserable time because the reason I didn’t want to go is because 2 children under 2 in a restaurant is hard bloody work.
I just don’t feel like we are equal and I’m fed up of him not taking any interest in our lives or any pride in his home and lifestyle.
I don’t know what to do, I’m fed up of acting like his mum. Are all men this crap?