Found out 4 weeks ago that husband was unfaithful 6 years ago. I cannot tolerate such a thing. It was a one off (I’m as certain as I can be) and he is so remorseful that i’ve been worried about his MH (just to illustrate how regretful he is).
I gave him his marching orders. Left with the kids to go overseas for some time out and told him he had to have a place to live by the time I was back.
He has to sign for the place tomorrow and if i’m honest, I’m not ready for him to move out.
In the long run, I honestly don’t think our marriage will work. The circumstances in which he cheated were completely disgusting and impacted people we know well. At the moment though, although I hate his actions, I can’t deny I still love him. We had an otherwise extremely happy and long marriage.
However, I left the country with the kids more or less as soon as I found out. We haven’t had so much as a conversation with him in person since then, except very early ones that were too heated to be productive.
Now it’s crunch time, I don’t want him to go. He really has to, I know he does. Things will be hideous if he stays. Or i’ll end up taking him back but hate myself for it. But I’m just not at all ready.
We don’t have anyone he can stay with. It’s just us. So it’s sign a lease or haemorrhage money on hotels.
I feel like i’d be doing myself a disservice if I don’t insist he goes through with it, but I feel completely sick. It’s so hard not to ask him to stay, even if it’s just in the spare room.