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How to make it work!

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maama2b · 25/03/2019 19:00

Me and my fiancé have just had a baby not long ago (baba is 6w) we still stay at my parents and he only started staying about a month before baba was born half the week, but now he has permanently moved in since baba was born we still love each other cause I still love him and I know he still loves me but he does absolutely nothing I understand he works 6 days a week till 16:30 and wants to relax after work which I absolutely love he is doing his best to provide for our wee family but am looking after our baby doing our washings trying to keep a room that's overflowing clean and tidy and I feel like I clean up after him more than just trying to do general cleaning duties and it's really get to me now am sick of asking or moaning at him, he does like one maybe two feeds and nappy changes (one which is through the night) and changes the steriliser that's all he does, I feel like am constantly on his case, we are also in the process of buying out first home and am supper exited but constantly thinking am I going to be a mum off 2 instead of a mum of one with a fiancé because that simply isn't happening!

Sorry for the long read but I just don't know what to do or how to get him to not even help but just clean his own mess at least 😞

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JoinedTheDarksideForKylo · 25/03/2019 19:13

Stop doing the house work. Just do the laundry you need. Don't do anything for his. He will get the idea.

JoinedTheDarksideForKylo · 25/03/2019 19:18

If you can't stand the mess, you're going to have to tell him clearly what you expect from him and how his lack of input makes you feel.

If he was my DP I would have had some stern words by now.

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