My partner and I were together for around 2 years before I let him move in with me. He was living with his parents and I already had a house so it made sense that he move in with me and my children.
However I totally regret this now, he's a lazy, miserable, selfish arsehole. Everything he does winds me up and he doesn't care.
He comes in from work and just sloths on the sofa, he expects my children to be quiet and out of his way (preferably upstairs where they're out of his mind) and he sits there controlling the TV watching all his boring men and motors programs. I don't watch TV anyway so it's not as if I'm missing out but having something boring on constantly in the back ground is worse than not having a tv on at all IMO.
He doesn't lift a finger around the house, sits on his arse waiting for his meals to be cooked, his plates to be cleaned, his drinks to be made, his clothes to be picked up off the bathroom/bedroom floor and washed and ironed, he leaves crap everywhere...chocolate wrappers, crisp packets, beer bottles all just left where he drops them (often on or beside the sofa).
He never wants to do anything, says he "works like a dog" all week (he only works in a shop! ) and he has the right to relax at weekends. He does sod all, doesn't do sports, has no interests other than cars and this means he constantly fucks around with ours when he doesnt know what he's doing which ends up costing us loads in repair bills. I had had my car for 3 years and it had NEVER had anything wrong with it, he moves in and occasionally "takes a look" at it and its practically in and out of the garage every couple of months now.
When he first moved in we agreed that we would have seperate bank accounts for personal use and a joint account for household bills. Well I save money in mine, he hardly uses his because as soon as he gets paid he wastes it all on computer games, mobile phones, dvds, clothes etc and then if ever we do go out or do anything I'm left having to pay for us all out of my own money. Plus when he moved in he brought with him a load of credit cards and loans which means I'm having to pay half of that off as he see's it as "household bills" and so pays it out of the joint account.
I can't stand it any longer, I want my old life back where I come home from work, play with the kids, make dinner, watch tv together, go out together at weekends...everything has changed now and its turned into a depressing household and I hate him for it but he's already made it clear that I will have a hard job making him leave. what can I do?