How do we like each other again?

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DH and I are having a very very rough patch in our 20 year relationship. DH says we don't like each other anymore and I sometimes agree. Does anyone have any good news stories of getting back to a healthy happy marriage? We are under massive strain at the moment with moving country, new job, unemployment all rolled into one, but things weren't great before all of that either. Three young DCs doesn't help.

I can't see how it's possible to do anything during a period of stress like this.
When I'm stressed it's as much as I can do to get up in the morning and function at all.
You need to talk about what you are going to do when you've moved. Is moving to a new country a great idea if your marriage is rocky? The thing you need when you have this kind of stress is a reliable dependent partner not two people who don't get on.
My friend who has four kids, one of whom is very disabled and autistic, has a date night with her husband every week.
Getting away from their stress and other problems is the only way their marriage survives.
They also make a point of going out of their way to do nice and thoughtful things for each other.
Keeping a marriage going takes effort, there is no room for letting things drift. You two as parents should put your relationship and doing things together first because if you fall apart the whole family falls apart.

Thanks madcatlady. We should carve out some time for each other. It's always bottom priority. We already moved countries so the pressures are upon us more than ever. He is a big one for yelling when under pressure. So hard to deal with. Hard to help him.