I'm not new to Mumsnet but it's a long time since I wrote anything.
Please help me I've been with my husband 25 years and married 10.
5 years ago I had suspicions of cheating but there was no evidence so after splitting up for 6 months we got back together and it's been great but then last year little things started happening like always buying new clothes, locked Facebook, then he told he was working the Friday after Christmas then the day before I said, your working tomorrow aren't you and said no I never said that but I know he did. We always texts through the day but then it started where he didn't text as much probably around November and I did think why doesn't he text me anymore but because your busy you don't stop to think until I decided in January I'm not texting him and I'll see how long before he texts me, he didn't so then I start being suspicious and the dread I thought 5 years ago came back so I mentioned it to him then he started texting but only till10am so it didn't make the insecurity go away.
He works 35 miles away so it's not like I can pop in to see him at work, so I started doing abit of detective work I use his car occasionally at weekends and I had a look at the satnav history and luckily had the sense to photograph all the entries. There were 2 that were from near where we live and I managed to trace back the dates when he was meant to be working, but I only mentioned one to him and he didn't say anything but I know I didn't put that in because I know where it is and as we are the only two who use the satnav so it must be him.
The other I kept quiet about but borrowed his car last Friday night and when I checked it had been deleted, then I knew and I also realized that 5 years ago he was up to things but couldn't prove anything.
When I told him about the 2nd address he as usual didn't say anything but walked out and is now staying at a friend's who is both our friend so I do know he is there.
Unfortunately now I realise my life has been a complete lie and he's obviously been screwing around for years thinking he would never get caught pretending to go to work and then doing god knows what.
These two addresses one in November last year and the other in December 2017 and I never suspected a thing.
He doesn't go out on a night only Friday with his mate and most of the time my son picks him up and he's home for midnight.
All I'm asking is what sort of person can do that to me and his 2 children. Please help me to get through this as I don't know what I going to do I'm completely heartbroken
Thank you for reading this.