Nothing matches it and i can't cope

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I've been single now for 4 years. Every friend I have is in a relationship, most with kids.

From the outside you'd think my life was great. Decent job and pay, nice home.

But it is all a struggle. I cry every morning and most nights. The bills are all down to me, I have no obligations to a family, nobody to turn to after a long day at work. I have nothing.

Yes my friends are there for me but it isn't the same no matter what anyone says. Im 36 now and will never have a family life I always wanted.

people think I am this career women when in reality all I want is a family and id swap everything for that.

i am so sad and alone. ive been out this morning and had coffee with friends, then went to the gym. i have friends and hobbies and i date and travel, spend 200 quid on a nice meal out. i do all the things you are supposed to. and so what? it means nothing.

NOTHING replaces the need for a family. i don't think i can take living alone without a family for the rest of my life. i hate it. it matters to me. having kids alone is not something i want to do. i feel so low.

ive been to the doctors too and had therapy. i get all the stuff you need to do to cope. but nobody can wave a magic wand and immerse you in a family life can they. no medicine or therapy can do that and it is all i have wanted since i was 15.

Oh dear, you need to sort your head out first. Why do you believe you will never have the family life you've always wanted? At 36, you still have time to find someone. Are you putting yourself in situations where you can meet and interact with single men? Also, having kids alone isn't such a bad option these days, don't count it out...

What’s your relationship history?

Don't give up. I know only anecdotal, but my friend was feeling the same at 36, but then met her partner through a theatre group she decided to join, she's just turned 40 and they've got engaged, with plans for a family.

Same with my cousin, met her now husband at 39, had her two kids at 41 and 42.

It might not happen, but it's certainly not too late for you. It may also not happen in the way you imagine it. Be prepared for a curve ball, and be open to opportunities. Focus on things in life that make you happy, and try and take a positive attitude xx

because I've tried. I've dated. I don't want to have to go through all of that, i just want to meet someome. im tired of it.

and yes i date, i go to events, im chatty.

it id hard to remain positive. i feel distraught about it some days.

i have had enough. my dating history...two serious relaionships. one mid twenties and one late twenties early thirties. one of these men is married now. the other is in a relationship. i lived with them both.

You need to tackle this head on. How would you feel about having a child alone? It is an option. And you can continue to date etc. At 36 it isn't too late

If your longing is for a child, you don't need a relationship for that

i would feel sad about it. i don't want to do it alone.

i feel so unhappy and although i hide it most days, i struggle all the time internally.

I feel for you. I am guessing the dating hasn't brought you that family and what age group you are going to? Have you considered someone much more mature ... It's only a thought!

sunshot i have started dating 40 plus. just feels pointless. spent the last 4 years dating.

Same here. Last was a 59 turning 60. Seems he is dating with an agenda. To have a home as he rents a room. Told me he tested living with a couple of ladies few nights a week ...one he didn't like her horsey lifestyle as was into horses. The other kicked him out as she had 18 yr old twins who were beauticians and he thinks he was being too nice involving her kids in stuff as lady didn't like it. Me..he asked alot of financial questions which I didn't like. He also didn't appear to function properly down there BUT he went off looking for better. Men even in Thier old age, broke still go out playing around