Separated, and my husband attempted suicide

[HecticAmy]

I am a mum of 4 and staying in a womans aid refuge, after separating from my husband. He was controlling. Since this he made a strong attempt at suicide, but was found. Following this I have tried to be supportive and maybe have given him hope we will get back together, but his controlling has returned in small signs I see, and I know I just can't go back to this.
My issue is any time I say anything negative about relationship etc I'm left terrified he will attempt this again. I don't know how I'd live with the thought I caused this, but it cannot be a reason to go back to him. Any advice or experience that could help me?

Men who really want to kill themselves will succeed nearly every time.

Controlling and abusive ex did the same to me, common tactic.

If was genuine, he would be dead now. Part of the typical arsenal of a manipulative and abusive man. After I finally got rid of my abusive ex and all of his other usual tactics did not work, he also threatened to kill himself via some flying monkeys. As I refused any even indirect contact, they told my mother who told them in that case, maybe I could have some of his decent things. We still chuckle about this. He apparently is still alive now, quite a few years later.