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I want to sleep with other men

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khudson123 · 23/03/2019 17:49

So where do I start my husband had a affair I understand why now,I'm pretty and tried to be a good partner to him and then I realised he was sleeping with an other woman,since then all I want is to have my own fun we have amazing children I haven't told a soul about what I know he's up to and now I'm really enjoying myself I know I must end our relationship but for the children's sake I want them to have their dad around and I've been considering telling him that I know he's sleeping with our children's teacher and having a open relationship are we all the same in thinking that sounds better than carrying on in deceit

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PurpleDaisies · 23/03/2019 17:51

You need to end your relationship. What’s to gain in staying together?

EnjoyItAll · 23/03/2019 17:52

it's entirely plausible he may agree but do you really want your children to grow up with their dad sleeping with their teacher and you sleeping with someone else? would with it you be truly happy with that situation?

Nanalisa60 · 23/03/2019 17:55

Ask him for a open relationship !! And fill your boots!!

Inform school one of these staff thinks it’s acceptable to sleep with her pupils father!!

Tomtontom · 23/03/2019 18:04

In what way are you enjoying yourself?

How do you know about his affair?

Frenchmontana · 23/03/2019 18:11

Inform school one of these staff thinks it’s acceptable to sleep with her pupils father!!

If that was such an issue for OP I am sure she would have done something about that by now.

Sounds like OP wants an open relationship and the fact that it's her kids teacher doesnt bother her. It's odd that it doesnt bother her.

It would very strange to agree on an open relationship then fuck over her husbands bit on the side. If she wanted to report her, and I would, she would just do it. Not wait until an open marriage is agreed.

BlueJag · 23/03/2019 18:38

Talk to him. It may be the best of both worlds.

swingofthings · 23/03/2019 18:41

Their dad can be around. 50/50 residency is much better for everyone thdn a lie of a marriage.

bigchris · 23/03/2019 18:43

Sounds like a teenagery op

TeaForTheWin · 23/03/2019 18:43

I'd divorce his ass and sleep with whomever I like. I know saying 'look lets stay together and diddle whomever we want' might seem less... hastle somehow but...if he disrespects you enough to cheat on you and lie to you then...basically he doesn't respect the rules of your current relationship so, chances are he'll shit over the rules of whatever kind of relationship you try to make with him. Maybe his infidelity came at a 'good' time, but it still shouldn't mean you just excuse it. Also, chances are he would be of the mindset that what was good for the gander isn't good for the goose anyway.

NameChangeNugget · 23/03/2019 18:54

1/10 Not even a good try

Dinks66 · 23/03/2019 21:12

Being a role model for my child made my decision an awful lot easier to end my marriage.

Closetbeanmuncher · 23/03/2019 21:15

I think you're being too generous with that @NameChangeNugget 😂

Bonkers.

Middersweekly · 23/03/2019 21:33

Blimey @OP he’s sleeping with the kids teacher!!!! Holy hell, talk about abusing a position of trust! She would lose her job if that information was leaked!
I know the old saying goes..”don’t get mad, get even” but really think hard about why you want an open relationship.

xpc316e · 23/03/2019 21:42

If I were the OP I would carefully examine the reasons why I felt I wanted an open relationship. If she really wants to have sex with whomsoever she wants with her husband's knowledge and agreement, that is fine. Unusual and difficult to make it work, but not impossible by any means.

However, if she wants to have sex outside of her marriage as a means of exacting revenge on her husband for his infidelity, then I think that is not a sound foundation upon which to construct a life.

Brandyb · 24/03/2019 01:47

@xpc316e
Exactly that

Smellbellina · 24/03/2019 01:50

He’s sleeping with your DD’s teacher? Either she loves him, hates life or both. So whatever you think will make you happy and a good parent. If that’s an open marriage, do it. If it’s leave, do it. All your kids need is for your to be well, happy and strong enough to be their parent.

WhoEatsPopTarts · 24/03/2019 01:56

Cobblers

ReanimatedSGB · 24/03/2019 02:00

Open relationships can succeed or fail just as easily as closed ones.As to sleeping with DCs' teacher... not really a big deal as long as you're not actually doing it in front of the class. And no more awkward, really, than being the teacher at the school your kid attends.

Smellbellina · 24/03/2019 02:04

As to sleeping with DCs' teacher... not really a big deal as long as you're not actually doing it in front of the class. And no more awkward, really, than being the teacher at the school your kid attends.
Pretty sure it could be reasonably argued this goes against teaching standards. Especially TS part 2.

Sadiesnakes · 24/03/2019 04:33

Cool story bro👍

BitOfFun · 24/03/2019 04:37

And then everyone applauded?

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