So I'm a single mum now...oh god

[Woeis]

How does anyone cope?

This has been a long time coming but I'm fucking scared as shit.

If I didn't have the baby (one year old), I'd be out tonight.

Now I'll just be sat in the house by myself.

I'm so fucking sad.

My ex has just walked out on us, apparently not standing for his abuse anymore made me a horrible human being 🙄

I’ve got two and one on the way in 10 weeks, I am TERRIFIED. Just utterly lost and really unsure on how I’ll cope especially with the baby when he arrives.

Snowball28 sounds similar, I had one on the way and wasn't put up with it anymore then he was making allegations about me and telling everyone I was crazy.

When our little one arrived he was all sorry and saying he changed, within a week he was back to himself!

Good luck and try and relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy

OP you sound desperate to meet another man.

Take a breather and enjoy your own company.
It's not the be all and end all to be in a relationship.

I was a single parent for many years and loved it.

Oh yes @Mami16 apparently even though I’ve been secretly recording him and played it all back to him I’m still ‘a lying crazy bitch’ whose ‘twisted all his words’ don’t know how I can twist a voice recording but okay then 🙄

Don’t get me wrong I’m glad to be out and free but I’m scared, lonely and just so exhausted. Uphill road from here.

I do wonder about dating.domeone else because I feellike.myheart is ready to get to know someone new.

Dont rush into this. Honestly, you need to learn to enjoy having your house to yourself. And you will eventually.

I am putting off moving in with dp because I like my own time.

When I first split with exh I didn't. I spent most evenings at my best friends. For about a year. As soon as got my own home (the family home was sold) I started enjoying it.

Got ds to bed and watched some TV. Enjoyed an hour peace and quiet. Bed as early or late as I wanted. Its bliss now.

FWIW i rushed into dating someone. Took me by surprise. Wasnt looking for anything. It went spectacularly tits up within about 8 weeks. 18 months later we got back together and he is now my dp.

But we got back together because we were still in touch, on occasion, as knew mutual people. But after a break from eachother completely, started talking then became friends. Took it much slower and we almost pretended the first time never happened.

Jumping straight into something when feeling vulnerable and lonely, will likely end up with you getting hurt even more.

I wish my mum had been strong enough to look after us on her own.