Gaming

[Chloek1994]

Im finding it pretty annoying how much my partner games. We have a 5 month old baby together. Every day after work he has tea then has to pay for a hour & a half / 2 hours , then on the weekends he gets up and goes in the front room early and plays for like 3 hours & what ever chance he can get during the day if we arnt doing anything.
Its just kinda annoying sometimes , like we dont get that chance to chill in bed together and play with the baby , or after a day of being on my own , he comes home but needs to get the gaming out of his system before anything else.
Im not really asking anything just having a rant , i properly sound abit controlling ? But the gaming never used to be this much , we argue so much over it , just seems like its soo important to him.

There is little point in arguing with him.

If your boyfriend is determined to play games and not be with you and the baby you simply can't force him to want to be.

For what it's worth you don't sound controlling, you just want your boyfriend to take an interest in you and the baby and he doesn't want to.

He could tell I was annoyed. So just had another arguement over it. He says im miserable so he doesnt want to be around me in the mornings & its his day off so he wants to relax and play games in the morning. I think im just feeling pretty down because we barely do anything and we argue so much

How long have you been with him?

Sounds like he didn't want the reality of being a parent :(

I would just turn it off and go out by myself, and if this continues, leave him

I was in the same position, with additional issues, with my DD who is the same age as your baby. I just left him! At the end of the day I already felt like a single parent. Now he can spend all his time on his Xbox, which he does.

I would discuss it with him and if he fails to change just leave him or accept that a lot of the time it maybe just you and you little one doing things!

If he's arguing about it then he obviously has a bit of growing up to do OP. I mean I like to game but it's literally when I have a spare couple of hours to myself. I don't stick it on and ignore my family.

Unfortunately I don't know what you can do about it. Wait for him to grow up or tell him to either choose a more appropriate compromise with the gaming unless he wants you to split.

There's nothing wrong with gaming in itself but like anything, there needs to be a balance. It sounds like you need to agree some relaxing activities that you both like- maybe a Netflix series or something that you can both enjoy together. He should be interested in spending time with you as well as playing his games. What do you do when you get a spare hour or so?

My DH plays on the games console sometimes. I don't mind it too much because I also have things I like to do that don't involve him as well. It also means he doesn't mind staying in if I feel like going out so I'm not tied to the house like I would be if he had a hobby away from home.