Dirty lies

[Jasmine1002]

Found out that my partner has received messages from this woman and he says he doesn't know who she is. Have just found out that she actually kinda works with him.. he's currently at work with her. He's lied to me now I dunno if he has lied because of the job they work in to make me feel better or he is just lying in general and is speaking to her. Going to confront him but need advice please?!

Does it matter why he lied? There isn't an excuse for him lying and saying he doesn't know her when he does know her.

How does she "kinda" work with him?

My advice when you confront him:

1. Stay calm
2. Remember that whatever comes out of his mouth is going to be more lies.

She works in a strip club and he is the doorman/security.
I'm going to stay calm, just want the truth

Did you find out what the messages said?
Make sure you have enough proof first.
I also agree there is no excuse for lying and just makes the person look more guilty

Yeah I have seen the messages and have got the proof. I need to approach this the correct way instead of going in all guns blazing..

So he outright lied to you given the proof you have. Honestly working in that environment, I wouldn't hold him to any great standards.

You are right OP - don't go in all guns blazing. Do the opposite. Calmly tell him you are not attracted to him and more and you are ending the relationship. No way is this innocent.

What are the messages about/like? As u say, u know he's already lied, why?

But Its hard because i do still love him despite it. He isn't allowed to have any relationship with them or he can lose his job.