Hi all,
My bf and I have been together 8 years. I have a 17 year old son and we have a 3 year old daughter together.
We’re both in our forties so you’d think we’d have things fathomed out. Not sure how much longer I can cope for, he can be such a self righteous sod!
He doesn’t get on well with my son, it’s got to the point I have to keep them apart, my bf is always ready to criticise my son and it’s getting silly. My son is a little untidy but I must say this is 99% in his bedroom. I’ll tell my son to clear up but I just don’t go overboard, my son has ADHD and is on the spectrum so he finds some things hard. Anyway my bf will go in his room and count the plastic water bottles in there and moan about his clothes etc. He had some friends over and they had a film on in his room eating pizza, my son brought the rubbish down. My bf thought he was out of order and had a go at him about taking pizza upstairs, my son said he didn’t see the harm and carried on, my bf then aggressively shouted at my son and called him a fucking idiot, surprisingly my son was quite calm and then my bf started shouting more at him and then having a go at me saying “I must be a fucking c*nt as everyone treats me like one!”. My son was so upset and angry he swore back. My bf has said it doesn’t matter what he calls my son he shouldn’t swear back at him as he’s the child and should do as he’s told.
My bf has now removed the towel rail from the bathroom wall as apparently my son screws the towel up on it and can’t fold it. He says it’s disrespectful.
Am I in the wrong here? I think bf is being overkill and pathetic. He seems to think teens are told something once and they miraculously do it.
I’ve had enough but now I’m getting it in the neck and being told my son is going to rule the house etc.
Any advice appreciated xx